• transMexicanCRTcowfart@lemmy.world
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    My preferred pronouns are visible on our internal chat platform. In 3+ years only one person has noticed and used them.

    One time I asked someone to use them (I had decided that I was going to start asking for it to everyone but then I backed out so as to not inconvenience people with my stuff). I’d want to say idc, since at work my gender (or lack of it) is irrelevant, but I’m contradictory like that.

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      I know it’s common practice for everyone to list their pronouns, out of solidarity and to normalize the practice, but a part of me can’t help but wonder if that doesn’t cause that part of the UI to be super easy to tune out, as it’s “useless” information most of the time. If any UI element shows exactly what someone is expecting 95% of the time, what would cause them to pay more attention and notice when it doesn’t? It’s not like we have settings to make it flash or change its colour right now.

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        I’ve listed my pronouns under my name in my email signature, and that has cut down significantly on the number of people misgendering based on my first name. It’s not an obscure name at all, but the female version is way more popular and there only a very small letter separating the two versions, so a lot of people hallucinate it.

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        Yeah it’s a subtle setting in our chat. One has to kinda go and look for it specifically. Almost no one has filled it in, and a handful of funny people entered jokes (all seem lighthearted, nothing to call HR abt, but still).

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          all seem lighthearted, nothing to call HR abt, but still

          That’s a tough one, because you don’t wanna be the fun police, but also, it stings if people don’t take it seriously, but if you raise a fuss it might backfire and it sucks that it’s an issue in the first place