You sound like you may be apagender. Same. It pisses me off to no end that society has such rigid gender expectations in the first place. Let people express who they are and stop demonizing them, damn it!
Apagender is a new one for me. I was eyeing agender, but I don’t quite “feel seriously enough” about it. I thought of it as “eh-gender” before. I’m socialised male and comfortable being addressed as such, but I attach no value to masculinity. I’m a human, can we get on with more interesting parts of me?
One time, I was referred to as “young lady” on account of long hair (and on a spindly teenager, my physical sex wasn’t obvious at a glance). They were quick to correct themselves and apologetic, but it didn’t bother me the way I get the impression from strongly cis" people, nor elicit the kind of gender euphoria I read about in trans spaces. I was more irritated about the correction and apology wasting time when my train was about to arrive.
You actually sound like me. Long hair, condstantly mistaken for a girl growing up, “eh-gendered”. I am straight, but us sexual preference really what makes me who I am? I definitely like the term and am stealing it.
You sound like you may be apagender. Same. It pisses me off to no end that society has such rigid gender expectations in the first place. Let people express who they are and stop demonizing them, damn it!
Apagender is a new one for me. I was eyeing agender, but I don’t quite “feel seriously enough” about it. I thought of it as “eh-gender” before. I’m socialised male and comfortable being addressed as such, but I attach no value to masculinity. I’m a human, can we get on with more interesting parts of me?
One time, I was referred to as “young lady” on account of long hair (and on a spindly teenager, my physical sex wasn’t obvious at a glance). They were quick to correct themselves and apologetic, but it didn’t bother me the way I get the impression from strongly cis" people, nor elicit the kind of gender euphoria I read about in trans spaces. I was more irritated about the correction and apology wasting time when my train was about to arrive.
Apathy is probably the best description.
I still like eh-gender though.
You actually sound like me. Long hair, condstantly mistaken for a girl growing up, “eh-gendered”. I am straight, but us sexual preference really what makes me who I am? I definitely like the term and am stealing it.