The mantle of greatness on my shoulders is getting heavy. It sounds horrible but I totally get why so many of us fall to either affairs, alcohol, or divorce.
Its just SO unrelenting. Its a nightmare. I have no energy to do anything after a 60 hour work week, cooking, cleaning, walking youngest to bed until 11 pm and then waking up at 5. One day off a week. I’m just so fking over it 🤢
60 hour work week. That’s your problem right there.
seriously. even single a 60 hour workweek is going to leave you with zero time to take care of yourself, let alone children.
most people i have known doing 60 hour weeks are the type who are eating every meal out or getting ubereats everynight, and probably outsourcing their laundry/cleaning, etc.
A possible challenge is that some men struggle to cut their salary because their job title, salary, lifestyle is a big part of their identity. Take that away and who are they?
You know what makes cutting my salary hard? Everything is far too expensive. Kids even more so.
This type of mentality was way more common maybe 30 years ago but it’s eroding away these days
I think a part of that is being attached to things, to material possessions, to experiences. There’s nothing wrong with it of course, we are in charge of creating our own meaning, but attachment influences behavior and decreases our options.
In my part of the US, it is on average 38k/yr to raise a child to 18. Rent/mortgage is about the same. Not even getting to utilities, food, and healthcare. Life is wildly expensive for families these days.
Ah yes the frivolous attachments of rent, food, and electricity
This is a horrendously dystopian way of looking at life.
Idk, kids are pretty effective at making it clear that you are now the household NPC lol. Or at least that you’ve transitioned to a role as a supporting character.
2nd kid really hammered that one home.