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We don’t have this kind of policy in my school—this is my job basically . I work with grade level resource and the students with behavior. I have successfully remediated a lot of repeat aggression. As a team we are able to put families into contact with behavioral resources that are school/tax funded. The worst part of the position is honestly just the adults who want them gone. That’s just kicking the can… It can take weeks to bring dysfunctional behavior into under complete control. Sometimes I feel like I’m saving my kids from these awful adults, and not the other way around.

If you engage even one out of ten times, you’re reinforcing it. You can redirect the conversation. Talk to another person, change the subject, completely disengage with them on that specific topic.

You can set expectations privately going in. Set the boundaries. Reiterate them gently but firmly in a general manner. Polite and businesslike when the forbidden topic comes up, cheerful and interested when any other topic comes up. Again, never directly engaging with the forbidden topic.

All this assumes you still want to get along with this person.

Unlikely. I have always found dating sites pretty uncomfortable.

Even in the best scenarios, there were never any people who shared my interests. Now I’m older/kinda exhausted of it. :3

If I was younger and still trying, I imagine I would want something that felt less like being in a display case, visually. Maybe also making people who didn’t share any of my values or interests unable to swipe.