I’m somewhat similar, but I find that I have a tendency to remember interactions and conversations better than anything else regardless of emotionality, likely because of my chosen strategy when it comes to adapting new behaviors for social situations. I have a practice of, after any given interaction, doing a ‘post match review’ of sorts, assessing what was said, how I reacted/responded, how that was reacted/responded to by the other parties, etc. Once I’ve done that, I can then adapt new social behaviors for future use. It’s a weird sort of VOD review type thing which, frankly, sounds somewhat sociopathic when I put it in those terms 😭.
I definitely remember interactions like this post mentions better than your standard conversation, but I don’t think it’s as a consequence of the emotions themselves (at least, most of the time; breakup conversations definitely stick because of the emotions). Rather, I think it’s more that if an interaction is emotionally charged in the first place, I’ll generally review that more times or more in depth for ways to better handle the situation, regardless of if I’m trying to provide comfort or hit back at someone being a prick. Repetition makes something stick in my memory, and emotional situations simply get more screen time and re-runs.
That’s just me, though. Neurodivergence takes a plethora of forms, and none of my IRL friends with autism use this framework, so who knows lmao. It also carries some environmental hazards in that, if you aren’t able to stop yourself from spiraling, you can fall down a hole of fixating on social mistakes, so it’s certainly not ideal.
I’m somewhat similar, but I find that I have a tendency to remember interactions and conversations better than anything else regardless of emotionality, likely because of my chosen strategy when it comes to adapting new behaviors for social situations. I have a practice of, after any given interaction, doing a ‘post match review’ of sorts, assessing what was said, how I reacted/responded, how that was reacted/responded to by the other parties, etc. Once I’ve done that, I can then adapt new social behaviors for future use. It’s a weird sort of VOD review type thing which, frankly, sounds somewhat sociopathic when I put it in those terms 😭.
I definitely remember interactions like this post mentions better than your standard conversation, but I don’t think it’s as a consequence of the emotions themselves (at least, most of the time; breakup conversations definitely stick because of the emotions). Rather, I think it’s more that if an interaction is emotionally charged in the first place, I’ll generally review that more times or more in depth for ways to better handle the situation, regardless of if I’m trying to provide comfort or hit back at someone being a prick. Repetition makes something stick in my memory, and emotional situations simply get more screen time and re-runs.
That’s just me, though. Neurodivergence takes a plethora of forms, and none of my IRL friends with autism use this framework, so who knows lmao. It also carries some environmental hazards in that, if you aren’t able to stop yourself from spiraling, you can fall down a hole of fixating on social mistakes, so it’s certainly not ideal.