When “doing it”, are you regularly thinking about putting clothes away, which clothes to wash next or if you emptied the washing machine? Or when you washed your clothes the last time?
Is it distracting to the point you get soft (for penis havers) or dry (for ADHDers with vaginas)?
I don’t have ADHD - but as I’ve heard commonly expressed by women… Stress about unfulfilled tasks makes getting and staying in a zone where sex feels possible and enjoyable so much harder. I can only assume ADHD makes trying to refocus on the moment extra challenging.