My natural instincts seem like all the things you need to avoid with an avoidant partner like overwhelming intensity of feelings, going all in, oversharing, excitement, showing raw feelings etc. I was wondering if it’s even sustainable.

In case it’s not a run while you can scenario, I would appreciate any advice for an early talking stage with an avoidant and later stages if it goes well

Thanks!!

  • monkeyman512@lemmy.worldEnglish
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    2 days ago

    Both me and my partner have ADHD. Both of us deal with the things you shared. One of us is more avoidant and one of us is more anxious. Does this create problems and challenging times, yes. But we are both committed to communicating the best we can, growing, and improving. We have been together about 20 years. I think any relationship has a chance when both sides are willing to at least match the effort of the other side.