• NirodhaAvidya@lemmy.world
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    2 days ago

    This is what I call “Aspiesplaining”. I do this way too often and it’s nearly cost me my marriage. But damn, it just seems so natural.

    • Monument@lemmy.sdf.org
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      1 day ago

      My wife gets overwhelmed easily and shuts down (ADHD, likely AuADHD). Irrespective of ADHD (diagnosed) or any other undiagnosed conditions, I also have trauma that manifests as an insecure attachment style, I both try to explain harder and seek bids for connection/reassurance while she’s increasingly disassociating/internally panicking.

      We love each other fiercely, but it took a lot of self-work and the (ever-ongoing) development of coping skills to figure out how to identify, let alone avoid, that trap. It’s a real challenge for us both.

      No idea if the above is relatable, but I feel you on the over-explaining.