There is some significant amount of users here that fully / mostly abandoned social media and pretty often are in some kind of a post-reddit-lurker limbo, plus their age is around “I have a partner / family / job / hobbies / things in life I care more about than passionately posting / moderating online”.

Probably. I’m always surprised by the lack of activity on [email protected], but I guess most parents are probably busing actually parenting

That perfectly describes me. I don’t touch Reddit, got off FB and Instagram years ago, never had Twitter, etc. Lemmy is the only thing I use now, I subscribe to a few dozen communities that get maybe 15 new posts a day combined. If I’m in the mood to waste time on here I’ll see the new posts and hide them as I go. When they run out I’m done for the day. I won’t act like it’s the right move for everyone, but for me personally cutting my social media (or similar) internet usage down to around half an hour a day max has made me a lot happier.

I wouldn’t say “shit” but rather niche. Most people who would love a Reddit-like place have Reddit and don’t hate it enough to switch, especially since we don’t have extensive hobby communities with long history.