On the one hand, my father lost his dad when he was 12, so he is not perfect. I want to assume he is atleast trying his best. But this past year, “his best” was “OK with punching his children” and as far as I know, hasnt seen his grand children. (My sister has a kid. Living happy with her partner. Since sister and partner is not married, my dad doesnt acknowlege them.)

Im OK with skipping the birthday text to father, but mother (who i still talk to) insist i send the text.

  • MidsizedSedan@lemmy.worldOPEnglish
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    14 days ago

    Am in contact with Mom, but not depedant. Dad is only my “mechanic”. Only “dependant” for car things. Know nothing about cars. (My joke is taken off youtbe but; Guy A:“how big is the engine?” Guy B:“About this big” holding up his hands ~1m apart)

    Yeah. If he wanted a birthday text once a year, he ahould have not punched his way to “victory”.

    I do look back on the night thst he showed his true colours. I could have called the police about a disturbance, but i didnt. (Religious brainwashing about dad is right, no matter what)

    But i didnt.

    This June is 1 year of the Straw that broke the Camels back. Wonder how life would be if i made that phone call…