cross-posted from: https://lemmy.blahaj.zone/post/31693938

I (trans man) have a best friend (cis man). Today, he texted me, saying that he encountered one of his friends (cis man) and the friend’s boyfriend (trans man).

While I see the friend’s boyfriend as quite androgynous leaning masculine, my best friend thinks he looks rather feminine and “just like a girl”.

He still is trying to understand LGBTQ stuff, especially since he has had a transphobic, homophobic upbringing.

Anyway, my best friend called the boyfriend “she”, so he replied with “I’m a guy, actually.”

This confused my friend, apparently, and he said “How was I supposed to know when he looks so feminine?”

What is some advice I can give my friend? He’s trying to understand, like I said, and I fully acknowledge and believe we are ALL guys. Everyone involved in this post. Me, my friend, his friend, and the boyfriend.