I’ve never been so busy, I made the life altering decision to go back to college at 30 to get an engineering degree. I generally like math and I love building things and messing with electronics, it should be the perfect fit. But after starting at calc 2 and now doing 5 or 6 classes full time, working, and planning a wedding. I feel like I’m stretched thin.

I’ll get off of school and my brain feels like molasses. I’m medicated but I still feel like everyone is learning at twice the speed as me while I reread the question to make sure I actually understand the wording.

There’s some of you out there who are engineers, scientists, doctors with ADHD, who go out and do community stuff, go to the gym, live life and even socialize.

How? How do you do it? How do you keep up with such a constant schedule and try to understand new concepts every day on top of that? How do you not just curl into a ball and closing up into yourself to stop being overwhelmed?

I feel like I’m doing life on hard mode and it sucks

  • Nangijala@feddit.dkEnglish
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    24 hours ago

    This is a period of time in your life where you just don’t have any more time to pour into hobbies and community etc. That is okay. You are only human. I just had two years where I was stressed out of my fucking mind and couldn’t do anything when I got home everyday. I didn’t have energy for hobbies, interests, friendships, nothing. It’s slowly come back to me this year, especially over the summer and I’m gradually filling up my life with past time activities now.

    You are not weird or wrong or less than for not having the energy to be active all the time. School is intense. It just is. When you’re also working and planning a wedding on top of that, no shit you’re exhausted, my friend. I do hope you allow yourself to have moments in the evening where you’re just relaxing and doing nothing. That stuff kinda helped me when I was stressed. It was frustrating when you’re someone who wants to do things all the time, but for me it was necessary to avoid imploding. I think it would be good for you too to allow your head a break when you’re done with the day and not harass yourself with all the things you could be doing but aren’t. You’re allowed to do nothing after a long day where you have given it your all.

    Remember that all of this is temporary. The wedding will pass, you’ll graduate eventually as well and maybe then you will slowly experience that you have a bit more energy for all the fun things in life.

    Hugs! I wish you all the best! 🤗

      • Nangijala@feddit.dkEnglish
        1·
        14 hours ago

        Good! I spent at least a year with my evenings going to brain dead mobile games. That was all I could do for awhile ad looking back, I’m not sad about it. I hope you give yourself all the grace in the world if for the next months or years (how ever long the whole period lasts) and just accept that you need to play Silksong or whatever other game tickles your fancy when your tired after a long day. It’s okay to not be super duper productive all the time! It’s a lesson I’m learning slowly too. Hugs!