Hey!
If there’s confusion related to the title,its just a reference that the system has won, I lost, once again.
So my paid for professional diagnosis is done for now, I am refused the official recognition as an Autist. It’s all still there though.
I am livid. And empty.
I guess it’s my fault since >40 years of adapting and masking can make you too social, that’s what it broke down to. I am friendly and open and excel at masking.
They don’t see the price I (we) pay.
Apologies for the rant. I need your support.
I am older, and don’t think I need any accommodations or help, so I didn’t think a full evaluation would be of any value. I took some online tests, and chatted with other autistic people, and determined I’m autistic. I’m seeing a counselor figuring out what is in me due to being autistic, and what am I masking. Focusing on discovering and understanding. This path has revealed things in relationship with my wife, we have a better understanding of our differences.
Thank you for that, it gives me more inner peace about what I am. Stil, l I am doing this for multiple reasons but will have to see if I can go further with them.
In my relationship we’ve hit some walls in my capabilities and accommodated for that but if I may ask - is the counselor neurotypical?
No, she not neurotypical. I’m not fully sure what her story is, but she’s mentioned being atypical, divergent, and having anxiety issues. It’s pretty good having a counselor that is divergent. My previous counselor wasn’t, but his wife worked with autistic kids in the high school, so he must have some knowledge, but it felt like there was a slight miss on the specific autistic perspective. I’m not sure if someone that isn’t atypical would have the perspective I’m looking for in counseling. It probably depends on the counselor, and I don’t know how you would determine that without going to the counselor.
Ah damn I hoped for a different answer, this just makes me all the more sceptical with neurotypicals doing diagnosis (not at your fault!)
Good you found someone!