Do most people (like NTs) think binary, like approval or disapproval? — even if it’s more like a score.

A follow-up question: Are they obsessed with it?

  • Cypher@lemmy.world
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    5 days ago

    No people don’t tend to think purely in approval or disapproval. Most of the time it’s more nuanced emotion, you might consider frustration a disapproving response to a conversation topic but it’s not always that clear cut.

    People rarely think of others in these terms.

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    No. I believe the stereotype is that we think in more binary terms than neurotypicals. Which can be frustrating in a nuanced world.

    • venkman_lemmy@lemmy.worldOP
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      4 days ago

      I don’t think we think like approval/disapproval. NTs are more obsessed with approval than us and that’s how we can be odd.

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    I’m not sure if I get the question, but I think the answer is no. In terms of approval of someone, it’s a gradient with multiple dimensions. Example: I have a friend whose political views I dislike - but they are not too bad. At the same time I like how he treats his family and friends with care and respect. How I weigh these depends on the context. Over time you could perhaps arrive at a long term approval score, but still not a binary one.

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      5 days ago

      But you do think about that? I mean, in terms of approval and disapproval — even if it’s more like a score.

      • wizzor@sopuli.xyz
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        4 days ago

        Hard question. My native language lacks a direct translation of the words, but I interpret the question to mean how my overall liking of a person affects my interactions. I do think about that, perhaps more subconsciously than not. I will go out of my way to help people I feel are competent, share my values or goals, are kind or speak with the right mix of honesty and tact or simply… Have helped me when I needed help. I usually don’t perform this calculus consciously though.

        But yea, I don’t use those words, but that may be because due to language they don’t come to me naturally.