Feeling like, every time I’m in a group of NTs, that if we were stranded on a desert island they’d vote to eat me first.

And having a lot of social anxiety because of that feeling. But also having a lot of empathy for others while constantly being misunderstood, vilified, and ostracized by those same people.

oh how the turn tables

EDIT: Thanks for the gold, kind stranger!

I really don’t think original buldak noodles are very spicy at all. Like, I can feel it, but it isn’t what I would consider to be very spicy. They also don’t taste good, though. Like 3/10 spiciness.

Typical buffalo sauce or name brands like tabasco, cholula, etc. are not noticeably spicy to me.like 0/10 spiciness.

I have a decent spice tolerance, but I also don’t enjoy eating super spicy things “just because”. I want my food to actually taste good. Being able to eat spicy food lets me taste more flavor in hot peppers, but there’s zero point in eating really spicy stuff just to prove you can, imo.

The Act of Killing and The Look of Silence. Documentaries about the personal and psychological effects of the massacre of ~1M suspected communists (really just working people in unions, landless farmers, and some intellectuals) in Indonesia in the 60s and 70s following the military coup in 1965. This was directly aided and abetted by the US and other Western nations. The US intelligence aparatus provided lists of suspected communists to the coup government which then interned them in concentration camps and murdered them. The Indonesian perpetrators of the mass murders still directly control the government, military, and police.

The Act of Killing is a strangely surreal exploration of the banality of evil and a character study of members of Indonesian death squads as they make a movie (a very strange movie) about their actions during the massacres and are confronted with the effects of their actions - both their own psychological trauma as well as the pain and suffering they inflicted upon others.

The Look of Silence is a deeply personal documentary that follows Adi, an optometrist, and his family as he travels rural Indonesia interviewing people involved in the brutal murder of his brother under the pretense of fitting them for glasses (he presumably actually makes glasses for them).

A bit dark for the holidays, but they are amazing films. Deeply disturbing, sad, moving, and often funny films about a period of history that doesn’t get talked about much in the West.

My wife is on the ace spectrum. She enjoys sex, but only experiences reactive sexual desire (i.e. she’ll get in the mood once sex is basically already happening). Effectively she does not experience sexual desire in the way people typically mean that.

That’s been a struggle for us. We don’t do scheduled sex, but it’s something we’ve considered. Even though we have very good (if infrequent) sex, the frequency isn’t the thing that’s hard for me to deal with. The hardest thing is not feeling desired in ways I am used to in relationships. That has made me feel insecure and just overall is not great. But it’s something we’ve had to work through.

So all that goes to say: yes, if you find the right person you’ll be able to make it work. The key, in my opinion, is talking about it and being very clear about how you’re wired and that it isn’t anything wrong with them.

Well sure. CEOs’ main job is to coordinate the functions of major business units with the wishes of shareholders/the board of directors. Ultimately they’re a middleman on the hook for the results of the business without actual direct control of day to day operations.

Effectively that means they give broad goals and direction to named execs, who translate those goals into actions for their organizations, that middle managers direct their teams to achieve. Then middle managers report success/failure to named execs, who report back to the CEO who (in conjunction with the other named execs) reports success/failure to shareholders & the board along with financial results.

The execs all are basically on the hook for the results of the decisions made by those below them, but they only decide the broad strokes of the actions of the business.

LLMs could do most of that. The only problem is they can’t really make decisions properly. But they could pretty easily turn what is said by the board & shareholders into goals for others to enact - and maybe determine if actions taken by the business support the goals to some degree.

That is like 80% of the job of a CEO.

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1. take your open chip bag

2. fold the top of the bag down about 2cm/1in. Do this 2 more times.

3. take the corners of the folded part and fold them toward the middle of the rolled part at an angle

4. the tricky part. We are going to invert the cuff we’ve made - like flip the folded part inside out. Push those corners in and flip the folded part over them.

Compliance does need to be considered. The company I work for is trying extremely hard to comply, but because of complexities and ambiguities in the law, it is difficult to find out how to comply. I don’t know all the details, but I know legal, compliance, and the data engineering teams spend a lot of time figuring out how to be compliant and there aren’t always clear answers.

That said, the solution is not to roll back protections but to be very explicit about how to comply.

It stops taking as much effort eventually. Then you can tune out the noise and think about stuff. Or it never does because everyone is different, I guess, but then you just do what you have to do.

That’s true. But finding inner quiet is an even more necessary skill in those situations. But, I’m autistic (only mildly), so I totally get if the stimulation is just too much. Though I went through a lot of discomfort to be okay in environments like that.

It’s good to enjoy quiet and not be constantly surrounding yourself with noise. It’s an important skill to be able to sit in silence and not rely on external stimulation to feel okay.

Nice. I’ve been wanting to get into baguettes. I didn’t realize initially how much baking stuff I’d end up “needing” to get lol.

Oh really? Thats wild - does it not rise too much? Do you live in a refrigerator?

Very cool. I’ve not really done poolishes before - though I’ve done focaccia so I guess that’s similar. Any particular thing you’re trying to make with the poolish? Or just trying to do different boules?

Nice. Do you have a recipe you’ve been liking?

Mine is a 1:2:3 ratio, 3hr rise on counter with a couple rounds of stretch and folds, then a 16ish hr cold fermentation cycle, then bake in a dutch oven on 260c for 30 minutes covered 20 uncovered.

I don’t have a pic, but turns out pretty good. Trying to get it more sour, though.

Did you just make that bread? If so, how’d it turn out? If not, I want bread too.

It does not. The legal system has essentially lost the ability to be a check on the power of the executive branch. Partly because of the capture of the judiciary and regulatory bodies by right-wing extremists and partly because of the speed at which the executive branch is acting illegally - it takes time to build cases and the jsutice system can’t keep up.

Very poorly. I ruminate on them for literally decades and have frequent anxiety attacks. I’m working on it, though. I’ve begun studying & practicing Buddhism and have found it very helpful.

It was… uhhh… un tas de merde fumant

Ad hominem fallacy. The person who has been exposed for various things, instead of trying to refute the argument of the accuser (e.g. “they’re misrepresenting the facts”, “I couldn’t have done that here’s an alibi”)

… they just make their own accusations to make others mistrust their accuser. All of the examples you listed were ad hominem attacks against your friend.