I’m an out of towner, but I feel you. I had a very similar experience with my Spotify “new releases” playlist. One tiny incongruity and after investigating I realized half of the playlist was fake.
And now I have to look at every single new to me band’s profile and history before I can bring myself to listen. I feel like a crazy person.
The secret is to just kill or not recruit the annoying characters. I’ve played the entire story a few times and I always forget Karlach is in the game because I kill her every time. Astarion too, can’t stand the rogue stereotype.
That being said I did leave a negative Steam review for BG3 and I get made fun of for liking the game and not recommending it lol