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Cake day: June 25th, 2023

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  • On the first point, I read the original paper. It was wild and shouldn’t be taken as fact. The authors modeled a 3d penis and vagina and showed that the penis is able to scoop out paste from the vagina. They then interpret it as that it’s “possible” for the penis to have evolved the way it has to scoop out rivals’ semen.

    The obvious counter to the claim is that anything can be used as a shitty scooping spoon if you try hard enough.

    Also, note that a woman would need to have some wild body counts if she’s having sex so often that she doesn’t even have the time to let the previous guy’s semen drip out



  • Millenial/GenZ borderline here. Perhaps not wise, but I have the modern dating experience and I can give advice about that.

    Apps are completely useless. There are way too many guys and way too few girls who regularly use these apps, and that leads to awkward interpersonal dynamics, as though you’re interviewing for a job. You should never feel like you’re interviewing for a relationship. Even if you “pass,” it’s never a good sign that the start to a relationship is built upon checklists, transactions, and being the “best candidate.” I honestly expect that this is where a lot of incels get their strange dating worldviews from.

    The hard truth is that there is no easy answer. There’s nothing you can do that will guarantee that you find someone nice. All I can say is that there are things you can do that will destroy your chances of finding someone. The best that you can do is to not do any of those things and hope for the best. Here’s a couple tips that might be helpful:

    • Don’t spend your time online. As mentioned above, dating apps are worthless. Beyond that, though, it’s pointless to find anyone when everyone is anonymous. It’s ok to use the internet, but you also need to spend equal, if not more, time outside. Touching grass is a real, underrated advice. If you don’t have a reason to be outside, find a reason. Whether it’s a job, or a hobby, or a club, or some other commitment, you need to have a public presence. It was easier to be outside back when the internet wasn’t a thing, now you have to be intentional about it.
    • Find in-person communities to be a part of. Goes hand-in-hand with the tip above. You need a public presence. Have in-person friends that you see regularly, have people whom you know well enough that they recognize you and know who you are. I was part of a for-fun orchestra group, but you can also find gardening groups, or sewing groups, or any other number of formal or informal groups that might host regular in-person meetings
    • Know your neighbors. Your neighborhood is a community that you’re already a part of. It’s quite easy and low commitment.
    • Find new hobbies and expand your horizons. You should have a wealth of experiences, not just an autistic-level depth of a single experience. If someone asks you what you do for fun, you better not have only a single thing to say. Not only does this make you a more interesting person, it increases the chance that you’ll encounter someone that you connect with. ie, you’ll be part of more communities and therefore encounter more people, but also for any one person, there’s a greater chance that you share at least one interest.
    • Never stagnate. Builds off the previous tip. Always look for more things to do, more communities to join, more people to meet. There is too much to do in life for you to stagnate. Not only does this make you a more culturally rich person, it also gives you an excuse to be outside.
    • Take some time to evaluate and reflect on what sorts of incel mindsets you have inadvertently adopted. A lot of internet and modern trends have fundamental roots in incel thought, and it’s very easy to get subtly influenced by those ideas. Having any sort of incel ideology is a major red flag, so you’ll need to self reflect on how you have been influenced by these ideas. Many people that I know who are single use incel or incel-like terminology or have expressed incel-like ideas. They’re not bad people, and they’re definitely not incels, but they have been subconsciously influenced by incel ideology from the internet. Meet enough of these people and you can start to see why it might be hard for certain people to find partners compared to others.
    • Don’t approach someone who doesn’t actively indicate that they want to be approached. It’s rude and possibly creepy to do so. It’ll immediately destroy any chance of a connection with that person. It’s a false stereotype that people in the past got relationships through cold-approaches. At any given point in time, very few people want to be approached. There are only 2 solutions to this. First, meet more people so that you run into more people who want to be approached. Second, be more targeted with where you spend your time. If you are at a community meeting, the people there are significantly more likely to want to be approached than people that you find randomly on the street. Even so, read the room and determine if they want to be approached or not.

    You don’t need to do all of these tips, but the more you do, the more appealing you become and the higher the chances are that you find someone. With a long enough time, you’ll get lucky and find someone that you connect with. I won’t lie, it’s hard. In a sense, it’s like losing weight or getting fit - you have to be intentional about doing things that you know are healthy. Except in this case, you’re building social health, not physical health.



  • KDE Plasma’s default monitor is quite good, but you’ll need to edit the page to reveal all the hidden trackers that aren’t shown by default. Great if you already use Plasma.

    I also tend to use CoreCtrl and Steam’s inbuilt monitor (which I think is based off Mangohud?). CoreCtrl has a nice UI (much better than LACT, IMO), but it’s no longer receiving active development, so it doesn’t support the current generation of GPU’s. Meanwhile, Steam’s monitor is convenient but, well, it only works on Steam


  • I did notice something similar. Presumably, selective breeding at work. I read that brussel sprouts used to taste different not too long ago - the flavor and texture changed due to selective breeding. It wouldn’t surprise me if something similar is happening with fruits.

    That being said, whatever is going on, it’s definitely not happening with strawberries. Still sour as fuck.



  • It’s a project that’s designed to discourage AI scraping. The idea is that every time you access a website, your computer must solve a math problem before it can access the website. For a user, this is trivially easy and wouldn’t affect your browsing experience much at all. For a scraper, though, it accesses so many websites so quickly that the time spent doing the math problems starts to add up, and the scraper ends up spending most of the time just doing useless math problems.

    As a side note, a similar protocol was apparently proposed in the past for emails to discourage spam emails. Clearly, it was not adopted



  • Kubuntu 25.04 here. Did you edit the audio quantum setting? If not, you should. It may or may not be the same issue, but I would get occasional buzzing when playing games. It turns out the default audio buffer time is really small, so when you’re doing something CPU intensive (such as playing games), the CPU can’t consistently fill out the buffer on time, leading to occasional audio hiccups. Increasing the audio buffer time will slightly (ie, imperceptibly) increase audio delay and will give the CPU more time to fill out the audio buffer, which solved the audio issue for me. Try putting this line:

    context.properties = {default.clock.min-quantum} = 1024
    

    into /etc/pipewire/pipewire.conf.d/pipewire.conf

    (you may have to create some folders and files).

    Then restart and see if that fixes anything





  • My first exposure to the internet was at a time that I like to call the “early modern internet” (early 2000’s). I do have some nostalgia for that time, but I think times were also simply different.

    For instance, there’s just less content on the internet at the time, and whatever content there was was harder to find. The positive is that the internet felt more genuine. Nowadays, I think people have gotten into the habit of self-censoring, presumably at the gentle pressuring of big tech companies, and that has led to even indie content creators producing what feels like safe, corporate content.

    My personal belief is that culture is shaped by logistical challenges. The challenges of the early modern internet are not the same as the challenges now. We don’t need to return to a 2000’s-era internet, and I don’t think that’s even possible. But at least we can reintroduce genuineness by resisting corporate influence where we can. Presumably that’s why we’re on Lemmy



  • The best thing to do is to not see gender. Treat women the same way that you treat men. I mean that in the most literal sense, not in an “equal rights” sense (though you definitely should make sure that’s true as well).

    Do you know the uncanny valley? It’s the idea that things that appear close-but-not-quite human are offputting. Something similar happens in social conversations as well. People are very good at subconsciously detecting subtle signs of incongruity between your tone, body language, and spoken words. For instance, if you are nervous but act blasé. There will be subtle signs, like in how you phrase sentences or your tone, that will be noticeable, and people will think that you are hiding something. And people may find it strange and offputting.

    It’s the same reason why pick up artists appear creepy - people can detect that their intentions and worldview don’t match with their exterior façade.