but would prefer to be coddled when I need it rather than when I don’t.

I think this line is your problem. I suspect your family has been very caring and attentive your whole life. They figured out what you need to be at your best, to not be overwhelmed, and to have a chance to go somewhere you can recharge when you’re out of energy. And they made it their job to provide you that set of needs so you can always be at your best.

Reading your post, I can’t honestly think your life would have been better in shared res accommodations. It sounds like you need your own personal space.

I don’t think they have any hope of knowing “when you need to be coddled” unless you communicate that clearly on a case by case basis. But I would take some time to think about each case seriously because it sounds like you don’t think you need a private room when your post makes it pretty clear you’d rather have your own space and choose to socialise with people you like when you want. In a shared room with bunks you are forced into social situations 24/7 with strangers or people you don’t like with no escape.

So yeah, take some time to think about the pros and cons, then once you make a choice communicate it clearly to your family. “I am an adult now. In restaurants I’m confident I can handle every aspect of the interaction from ordering to eating etc… Please don’t help me, even if you think I’m having a hard time in a restaurant setting. It’s important to me that I be independent in this setting. I know you’re doing it because you love me and want to help me, and I appreciate that. I’m asking for this because when I’m treated like that in public it makes me feel like a small child and it’s very disempowering. I still appreciate that you help me in other ways, I would still like that help if you’re still willing to offer it. As I feel I’m able to take more things on myself, I will continue letting you know like this”

As for your aunt, we all have that aunt. You just have to say no as many times as it takes lol and she won’t like it.

As long as we all raise our kids this way, they won’t be out of touch with their peers!

summitsystems.co.uk/adiabatic-coolers-vs-cooling-towers/

There are many solutions to this problem. Evaporative cooling is just the cheapest. But it’s only cheap because we don’t charge these water users market rates for water. If they’re threatening drinking water or agricultural water we should just charge them for water usage the same as you pay for drinking water at home. That’s fundamentally what they’re taking when they drain the rivers dry. That way they compete directly on the water market instead of bypassing it.

They’ll install adiabatic coolers in no time.

“If we try to make the world a better place, the conservatives will use that as a pretext to do what they’re already doing”

There was an onion article about almost exactly that lol. https://theonion.com/protesters-urged-not-to-give-trump-administration-pretext-for-what-it-already-doing/

They’re already saying our plan to tackle climate change is going to hurt the economy. But we know that doing nothing will hurt the economy worse. Being scared of them saying what they’re already saying is weak and cowardly. Toughen up and do the right thing.

Ahhhh pink flamingos a movie to watch if you want to see a guy gape his asshole for 2 minutes and possibly fuck a chicken.

10/10 filthiest movie as promised, no notes

Yeah. Young adults are going to have sex.

They can have sex in the safe home where they live. Or they can have sex in less safe places like parties, frat houses, in cars where they can collect a public indecency charge, etc…

That’s the choice you get to make as a parent.

Recognising the “AI voice” isn’t just the voice. It’s also the clearly “written by AI” circuitous script that keeps talking without saying anything and non-stop clickbait “but wait until you find out what the answer is” crap.

The other type of AI voice is people just stealing Reddit stories and putting them to AI. Also lame. I want my stories narrated with human emotion. The point of stories isn’t to transfer knowledge, it’s an art form, I don’t need shitty robot emotions thank you very much.

So no, the use case for AI voice is very narrow. Some of my favorite YouTubers use text narration. Maybe they don’t like their voice, or speak a different language, I don’t know, I’ve literally never heard them. It doesn’t stop them in the least from showing me amazing things. They don’t need to resort to polluting their video with the lowest garbage idea humans have created so far.

I’d like to see a video that is improved by the use of any AI.

If nobody bothered to make it why should anybody bother to watch it?

Yeah, it’s like the other commenters all identified that Lemmy is based on communities not users, but stopped JUST SHORT of coming to the right conclusion. Community QR codes!

The idea of letting young engineers at a university design production equipment is WILD to me. Universities make PROTOTYPES. The gap between prototype and reliable production equipment is so big you could drive a bus through it.

A good production engineer is worth their weight in gold but when you have shitty ones you’re better off letting the workers run the ship. At least they know what’s happening and where the hangups are. You’ll know a good engineer because they’re down talking to the lead hands on the shop floor because they want to understand what’s actually happening and run ideas through the shop before they fuck with things.

We’re not trying to boycott EVERY corporations. We’re voting with our wallets for the lesser evil the same way we vote at the ballots for the lesser evil.

That’s an uneducated take. The amount of goods and services required by a population as a whole isn’t affected by boycotts. What one company loses others will replace since they have a profit motive to do so. This requires them to hire additional labour which can easily come from what labour boycotted companies lay off.

That’s assuming a boycott has such a large impact as to require a workforce adjustment which is basically a fantasy scenario in most cases.

Stop convincing people into more apathy than is already plaguing us.

Narrator: it was legal in state 1

Canadian satire to the rescue! https://www.thebeaverton.com/2025/03/zelensky-pretty-sure-disgraceful-meeting-could-have-been-disgraceful-email/

Zelensky suggested that a hypothetically efficient email could have read: “Dear Volodymyr, we are pulling all US military support for Ukraine because our administration has been personally bribed by Russian President Putin, and because Trump still wants revenge for the time you refused to open a sham investigation into Joe Biden and he got himself impeached. The End.”

“See how succinct that could’ve been?” Zelenskyy added.

Ah, my apologies. I’ll make sure to stick to one argument at a time so that you can understand.

You’re a troll. You think your opinions are “enlightened” or “rational” but they’re not. What you excel at is upsetting people by being abrasive. Look at your comment history and the downvotes you get on nearly every subject. When you speak, you do so in a way that’s upsetting to people. It’s not WHAT you say, but rather HOW you say it that creates this reaction. You’re just a troll and you’ve somehow convinced yourself that the downvotes are proof that you’re right and everyone else is wrong.

Upsetting your fellow humans is not the mark of a good person, nor is it the mark of an intelligent one.

The rare time you use your intelligence to form a coherent empathetic argument you get hundreds of people supporting you. Maybe try to build off that instead of feeling proud of your abrasive countenance.

I’m looking forward to your “honest debate” in every thread related to murder and capital punishment, but I know this is the only victim you’ll be defending in the near future. While you accuse others of dishonesty, it’s classic projection of your own moral fallings.

When posters say their convictions are simple “innocent until proven guilty and having the right to competent defense” they’re dishonest because “this is the only thread we’re in, what a coincidence /s”. Why the same logic doesn’t apply to you is a mystery.

Also this wasn’t first degree murder in New York, that is reserved for the premeditated murder of specific classes of people such as law enforcement. If you’re going to have these “clear and easy to express convictions” at least be accurate and clear about it.

I had you tagged as “conservative pseudointellectual” from previous interactions and it’s been accurate EVERY TIME I run into you. You consistently defend capitalism and conservatism, and now Catholicism for some reason? Against the interestes of the population in general.

I don’t see you standing up for all murder victims. You’re ONLY here in this thread defending this specific murder victim. Your dishonesty is plain as day. It’s clear that you think the rich should not face the social consequences of their actions. You think that as long as someone follows the law they should be able to harm as many people as they want as long as they create shareholder value. The fact that this is the murder victim you’re defending is pure coincidence! You act like you just want everyone around you to have “honest discussions” but you hide your own convictions. At least have the courage of your convictions.

Sure, anyone who disagrees with you is evil or dishonest. That’s how you know that YOU’RE the only one engaging in honest open discussion.

The headline is “crowd raises money to defend innocent man accused of crimes”.

I don’t know where you’re getting that we’re celebrating murder. You won’t even accept that you’re jumping to conclusions. You’ve got a lot of assumptions built into that head of yours sir.