Any pronouns. 33.

Professional developer and amateur gardener located near Atlanta, GA in the USA.

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  • The worse things get in my life the more I feel like this. I believe it’s a consequence of being raised Christian. (Though I am an atheist now.) When I was younger I believed God never gives you more than you can handle. So when things got bad it felt like God was breaking that promise. Now that I’m older it feels like “bad writing.” Like, really? This many bad things in such a short time period? It’s a little on the nose, isn’t it? It’s why I can’t rewatch I saw the TV Glow until I know I am in a very stable mental place.

    Major spoilers

    The main characters enjoyed a TV show that got cancelled on a cliff hanger. It is revealed that the characters are actually characters from that show which is reality and the false reality is the world they’re stuck in. To get back to the true world they have to bury themselves alive.

    I saw this movie right in the heels of Trump’s inauguration when I had a lot of other stress going on. Naturally, a movie with 4th wall breaking lines like “Do you ever feel like your life is a TV show?” when I did feel like my life was scripted and the way for them to get out was suicide was pretty terrifying.

    The irony being that I have been going through a bit of a gender journey for a while and knew the movie had themes to do with that, but none of that really hot anywhere close to home as the rest mentioned above. I’m just glad I planned to see it surrounded by friends.

    The idea that there’s an escape hatch on reality is so alluring. The idea that all the bad things in your life are the fault of one person, even if they’re a metaphysical entity, is so appealing. The sad reality is that it’s all random and sometimes we just get unlucky streaks.


  • I’ve trained myself not to laugh or take pleasure from other people’s pain or discomfort. See it as an indication of NPC.

    But say shit like

    I deemed him too small to bother with. He had no where to retreat to. I’m leering over him, he’s sitting. I could use overhead metal railing to brace against while kicking his head in. He was in a disadvantaged defensive position. I choose to pick my battles. To my knowledge to this day he doesn’t have to eat thru a straw.

    Definitely feels like you’re getting pleasure from the idea of that person’s pain and discomfort.









  • I used to had linux mint in an old computer and for some reason the wifi didn’t work.

    To me this implies it isn’t their primary computer. It’s not “manipulating and humiliating” someone else. It’s just saying, “you’ve been saying you’d fix this but it hasn’t worked, I need to use this computer for something.”

    And no need to feel sorry for my wife. We’ve been together over half our lives, married for over a decade, and extremely happy with each other. My wife has done things like this to me. It’s not toxic or manipulative. Sometimes I overestimate my own skills and/or get distracted with other things.


  • Why? Imagine your house’s door doesn’t work so you have to make a long trip through the back. You keep asking your partner to fix it. They insist they’ll get the door working. Either they can’t or don’t, doesn’t matter, but you have the money and are willing to pay for someone to fix it. Your partner insists they can fix it. I think it’s reasonable to say something like “if it’s not fixed in two weeks I’m paying someone to fix it.”