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Cake day: June 20th, 2023

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  • I don’t think it’s only men either, but it’s worth considering the implications and potential causes for what is being said here.

    We have had not decades but centuries of macho culture, where mental health is a taboo for men because “I strong, me no cry” and we know that mental health struggles go underreported on men. This is just adding more evidence to a symptom that we already know, of a society that hasn’t been able to course correct because it’s too set in tradition to allow those who need help to seek it without feeling like garbage.

    While I’m not saying this is a problem exclusive to men, I think the causes and effects on women and men are rather different. We’ve now known for a while that women with mental health issues or disorders tend to go undiagnosed (even more so than unreported). The case of autism is particularly blatant, as women only started to get diagnosed in a meaningful proportion in the 80s (despite autism not being sex- or gender-driven). https://www.autism.org.uk/advice-and-guidance/topics/identity/autistic-women-and-girls

    Similarly, that underdiagnosing came from the stereotyping of gender roles and the fact that being quiet and pretty equated being “feminine”, which is “good”, so can’t be autistic, because autistic is bad.


  • I once had the great idea of drinking a litre of beetroot juice, which I had read is amazing for sports recovery because of something something helping blood carrying more oxygen or something like that.

    Instant diarrhea, and on top of it, beetroot tinted it looked just like blood, so up until I realised what was going on and the fact that it actually wasn’t blood, that was a scary experience.

    I don’t know whether beetroot is known to cause diarrhea or it was just my body noping the juice out of it, but I have steered clear of beetroot juice ever since!


  • I would say except “no thoughts, head empty” and “want to do nothing”, the rest of the moods are failures to regulate.

    If you can regulate, you don’t get into a hyperfocus that lets you forget your own physical needs; or feel you want to do “all the things” but simultaneously none of them feels appealing/right.




  • I think this might be the first time I find the right words to say this. Also it’s probably not the right thread but if I try to make a post I’ll lose motivation and not write this, so… Since we’re in an ADHD sub, here we go.

    It irks me when people say I physically can’t get off the sofa and do things. Because no, there’s nothing physical preventing us. There’s no barrier, there’s no muscle weakness, our neurons haven’t stopped telling our legs to work. We’re mentally blocked instead (as evidenced, for example, by the fact that we might be able to get up to go get more crisps, while moping and feeling useless all the way to the kitchen and back).

    Our mind, and by this I’m talking about the area of the brain that controls executive function, it’s refusing to either put together a plan (10:04 am - get up, 10:05 am - clean kitchen) or might know the plan but refusing to execute it and send the commands to another part of the brain.

    I think when people say “I physically can’t move”, neurotypicals roll their eyes and don’t understand, because there’s nothing at a physical level actually preventing an able-bodied individual to move, and they make the mental shortcut to “this person is lazy”.

    Sorry about the rambling. TL;DR: I think we need better wording to explain this to people who don’t experience it, as we’re blocked mentally, not physically.


  • I would say it’s mostly because of ADHD that I prefer digital. I don’t lose it, it doesn’t turn into clutter, I can take it with me without having to remember (e.g. on the steam deck or switch)…

    There’s the downside of publishers sometimes removing access to the content, but that’s more of a downside of bad actors rather than digital explicitly - people who bought The Crew as a physical copy still lost access because ubisoft sucks, not because it was digital.


  • In different ways. For example, it’s very rare for a car to explode in a collision, other than in movies.

    One of the reasons that make hydrogen difficult to work with in this sense is that hydrogen (H₂) molecules are so small that they can permeate most materials, such as steel. Then it can get somewhat easily to wherever there is a spark, and chaos ensues. Annoyingly you don’t even need 100% Hydrogen for that to happen, as it can ignite with a concentration of just 4%.

    After we stopped using Hydrogen mostly as a consequence of Hindenburg’s accident, it’s taken years to perfect hydrogen fuel cells to a safety standard that can be used in cars. As far as I know, its use has been limited to rockets/space propulsion otherwise (where you can just throw millions at the problem to make it safer).










  • I’ve had success with just dish soap - it makes blockages “slide” more easily.

    In the last flatshare I lived, I had a particularly annoying combination of a slow toilet and a flatmate incapable of solving any blockages. Whenever I’d see that, I’d go “fuck this”, squirt a silly amount of Fairy in the bowl (I’m talking like 100 ml at least) and usually the blockage would resolve itself overnight.