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Cake day: July 2nd, 2023

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  • It’s just a mistake, there’s no point in beating yourself up over it at all.

    Try to find a way to laugh it off and either cancel or have a fun time doing something else in the area.

    Your mistake is an embarrassing inconvenience. Nobody is hurt, nobody lost their job, you aren’t fired, evicted, or divorced.

    Take a deep breath. Self-forgiveness is a skill worth practicing, lest you poison your memories with regret.











  • Fight Club, for the right reasons.

    I was entranced by the idea of ‘hitting bottom’ deliberately and pared things from my life that weren’t serving me well.

    “The things you own end up owning you” was major for me, and I got rid of a ton of possessions.

    Another was deciding I had always wanted to build a house; I spent the next decade reading about alternative homebuilding and made a plan.

    Unfortunately my job and health failed before that plan went into fruition, but going through that planning process made me reach out and grow in new areas. It really did change my life.

    Now I’m older and married but have never given up on the idea of building a cordwood shack and living in it for the rest of my days.




  • What works for you, works for you.

    It may be possible to slowly wean yourself off of these behaviors that are worrying you. If it’s down to once a month, there isn’t as much of a jump to zero times a month, but maybe sometime. And then once it’s been a year, congratulate yourself for that and keep going.

    Habits are hard to break and much easier to fall into. But if you are more conscious of these decisions, it all becomes a little bit easier with time.

    That kind of mindfulness is a skill that is hard to develop, but your post leads me to think you’re already on your way.