This type of all or nothing rhetoric is bs. It’s ok to be nostalgic for a time that was better in some ways while rejecting the ways that it wasn’t. The fact is, the rise of the internet has made life a lot more complicated and brought new problems even as some have been solved.

Nice!

Being already established, you have a few advantages over the newbies. You know about how a few different instances federate and work, and you know whether or not you like your instance.

Recommend your instance. Or if you wouldn’t, whether because it’s niche or doesn’t work well in general, recommend a generic instance, even if it is .world, because it will probably work and give a good experience.