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Cake day: June 16th, 2023

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  • This might sound extreme but it took my partner and I deciding to have large meals for breakfast and lunch and then not eating after 1pm. There’s this health YouTuber Bryan Johnson who tries to perfect sleep, and this is one of his strategies.

    Digestion speeds up heart rate, so ensuring your stomach is empty around 9 lowers it significantly and helps make you super sleepy.

    We’d usually have a light breakfast, something simple like a couple eggs for lunch, then a massive meal in the evening. Freeing up the evening is super liberating because usually we’re burnt out after work but still need to cook. We basically reverse this schedule.

    Meal prep is somewhat important to pull this off, but we’re finding easier meals as we go. Helps to cook in the morning as you are well rested. Bananas around 5pm are fine if you need a boost because they digest in under an hour.

    We now fall asleep within 10 minutes of going to bed (meds or no meds) and wake up without an alarm between 5-6am. We then either cook, game, or work on personal projects with full energy.







  • SleepyPie@lemmy.worldtoGames@lemmy.worldWhy would I buy this?
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    2 months ago

    When people may get into a competitive game, data shows that they commit to it as their primary game.

    It becomes a part of their identity. You see things like Leage of Legends going strong despite a slow down in new players - people just commit to it for better or for worse, likely because most of the skills they’ve gained in it and friends they’ve made will not transfer to other games. Even other FPS games have different nuances that are non trivial once a player becomes serious about winning.

    Take Wild Rift vs Mobile Legends Bang Bang. MLBB is objectively a worse rip off of League of Legends and the Chinese game Glory of Kings, but it was first to market on mobile. Now that League has released their mobile version with immense polish and quality, many mobile moba gamers just aren’t interested - they’re already totally invested in their main game, despite it being proved in court that it’s a cheap copy. (Not cheap as in $$$ though)

    When you’re a kid, spending time on any competitive game will be fun (if you can handle the baseline toxicity) since you will start bad at most of them. When you get older there is a real cost to switching, you will not have as much fun until you build up the years of muscle memory that would be needed to even approach your skill at the previous game.

    Because of the lock in, if a competitive game finds a sizeable enough player base and lasts a good handful of years, the devs essentially get free rein to milk their cow as they see fit.









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    8 months ago

    This might be an unpopular opinion but online dating works and is worth the struggle.

    I also experienced some ghosting, periods of few replies, etc as well but I got better at it over time and found much better results as I adjusted. This is honestly a marathon not a sprint. Pace yourself, take a week off from matching (sometimes more) when it wears you out.

    If you’re not getting enough dates then you must improve your photos. Your photos are everything in online dating. Even one 15% better photo can make all the difference. Over the next while try to improve your appearance, whether through some nicer clothes, finding a pretty setting, or a haircut and make sure to take a couple photos wherever you go. Most new photos may not look good but occasionally you will create one that’s an improvement worth updating your profiles with. People will learn about you after they are attracted to you. This is not vain or selfish, we want a partner we are attracted to.

    I briefly dated someone who worked at one of the dating apps, and she told me about the science of dating. It’s called an “optimal stopping problem” and I highly recommend you google it.

    It boils down to meeting as many people as does not burn you out, then locking in on the next best person you find. This will be your best chance of a good life partner. Also for men, there is a pay to play aspect. Be comfortable paying a monthly fee if you’re not getting any new dates. I know this is not perfectly fair but it makes sense how it came about. (And can be cheaper than buying strangers drinks.)

    Once things get rolling be sure to turn down people you have doubts about. There is an ADHD impulse control issue where you may have an urge to go all in on a person showing you affection, especially if you’ve been needing it for some time. But please don’t settle, you should have very few reservations when you meet someone ideal for the long term. Again, your best chance of success is to say no to a good handful of people first so you know what’s possible and have more insight into what you need.

    We spend so much energy on schooling for jobs we might change, but ideally a good partner is forever too. This is worth spending time and energy on. I married someone so perfect for me I didn’t let myself believe it was possible before I met them. I wouldn’t have found this without online dating - I am convinced it is better at putting you in front of people who suit you more than what past generations had to go through as long as people are willing to adjust to its quirks.





  • Consider installing NextCloud on a private virtual Ubuntu/debian server. You can deploy it via docker or other various ways to make this easy.

    This can essentially grant you full control over your data as long as you trust wherever you host the server. You can install other open source apps on top of it - like only office which can give you live shared file editing like google drive or one drive.

    Nextcloud has phone app access. NextCloud supports markdown. NextCloud is fully open source, and actively developed due to enterprise support contracts, kind of like Fedora. You could secure access over the internet through a VPN, https and every other hardening scheme.

    If you don’t trust any infrastructure then host it on a laptop, so many reliable used devices can be picked up for cheap. Expand to other devices for redundancy as you become comfortable.

    Feel free to create accounts for family and people you trust, freeing your community from monopoly.

    Ask ChatGPT for the steps in between. This is my personal set up, feel free to ask me any questions ChatGPT can’t help with, though I may be slow to answer.