A lot of people mention podcasts, but what really helps me do boring tasks are audio dramas. They are shows meant to be listened to. These are different from audio books where you get a narrator, they have sound effects and several voice actors playing different characters.
Some good starting points IMO (all on Spotify)
I just buy notebooks to keep by my side and serve this purpose. This prevents me from having loose sheets everywhere that can get lost.
I keep the three on my desk, the most recent two filled ones and my current one, and it has happened to me to go search one of the old ones for some random info I know I scribbled in there and need later.
I don’t know if this is normal, I can sometimes remember the side of the sheet I wrote something in, the approximate height, ink color and sometimes how far along the notebook it is. This helps with search, but even without memory like this I still think it’s easier to search a notebook than a bunch of loose sheets
I’ll preface this by saying I understand it might be hard to get into this mindset, I’m not trying to be patronizing or reductive of your feelings.
I try to appreciate tiny little things in my day. Pleasant smells, seeing the beauty of everyday items, the warmth of tea, how pretty the sky looks when I happen to notice it.
Along the years I’ve collected little things that bring me joy to use, like nice dishes and mugs, a pretty pen with a color I love to write my notes in, clothes I feel cozy in. I don’t acknowledge them every time I use them, but they bring me little moments of appreciating what I have and the beauty of everyday items.
This is one of those chicken and egg things, I don’t know which causes which, I can tell you I consider myself quite happy with my life, I’m very grateful for where I am in life, even though my family and I have been heavy a rough year in terms of circumstances.
As for passions, I love learning and crafting, lately I’ve been focusing more on sewing, but I haven’t had much time to dedicate to it. I like spending time with my husband, just doing boring grown up stuff like buying groceries is better with company :)
I hope you get better soon!
Is this from the Finch app? I should re-download that at some point
My mom had her driver’s license at 18 as soon as she was able to. Then she went on to stop driving after having a license because she did not have access to a car to drive. Later in life she had a car to herself but had forgotten a lot of how to drive and is a worse driver today as a result. She had her drivers license already, and classes are expensive, so she relearned how to drive all on her own.
I learned form her and took my driver’s exam later in life, when I felt like I was being held back by not having a car or driving. I had a car of my own a couple of months after my exam, and drove a lot late at night with my boyfiend just getting used to and confortable with it safely. I learned to drive more in those late nights after having my license than in classes. I did not feel super confident driving when I took my exam. It took months to get truly confortable, and thats OK.
Now you decide what lesson to take from this. It’s fine if you don’t drive ever, but if you intend to later I would advise you to practice more soon to really cement in driving, its habits and have it become second nature.
Just in case you’re serious, taxidermy is not a good option if you want a faithful representation of how you look like. Taxidermy often results in not exactly the same look something had when they where living because replicating exactly the bones and cartilage to put the skin over is not easy.
This is OK for some random wild animal you don’t care about representing the individual it once was, but for pets it usually results in unsatisfactory results, and for people it’s just very uncanny because our brains are very good with human faces.
Play the NYT wordle, mini crossword, connections for the day. I have some small simple games that can be stopped at any time. My most played ones are cake sort, water sort, sudoku and sometimes minesweeper. Also scroll lemmy sometimes, it’s small enough that it doesn’t take long to see everything that is new, so there’s no risk of getting sucked in for long
That brings me back! When I was a kid I did mostly good in school, but I despised history, so my mom would take the manual and make small test like question and quizzes that I could then consult the manual for to answer (but not copy). Just the change of format made it a search information task instead of reading a huge dull bunch of text.
History was always my weakest subject, but the help my mom gave always kept me from having terrible grades
This varies by person, and he best person to talk about this is your girlfriend.
With that said, I’d do half what she paid in rent for mortgage (of half the mortgage payment, whichever is smaller), and all other expenses split down the middle. She would pay rent if she lived elsewhere, the way I see it, her contributing to the mortgage is a deeply discounted rent.
This might not work for you, you need to talk. Me and my now husband when we first started setup a joint account, and each sent half of an agreed amount there every month, or as needed. We didn’t make similar incomes, it fluctuated back and forth through the years for both of us. Some people would think it was unfair for us to pay the same. It worked for us, and both of us were happy with the arranjement, it might not be the best option for you.
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It’s really tiring to just exist inside your own head.
I’ve described it before as a box filled with a bunch of bouncy balls just bouncing off on every direction, off the walls, ceiling and floor, all the time. Every one of those balls is a thought, it’s really hard to hold onto just one, it’s hard to keep one once you’ve caught it.
When I’m resting usually I just put in some youtube video/TV show/audio book and play some mindless game for a while. On the outside it looks like it just played solitaire for 3 hours straight, but on the inside I’m just trying to follow one line of thought while keeping the rest of my brain occupied and quiet for a second.
Not about money in my case, but similar stuff happens too. I just stand my ground and say as calmly as I can (with varying levels of success) “I’m sure X happened this way” we don’t discuss it often, my dad usually just keeps up believing stuff happened his way, and we leave it at that.
What helps me with those kinds of things is to focus on enjoying the thing, whatever it is. Especially digital stuff that occupies no space in my home, I accept that it’s ok to do something as long as I enjoy it, and when it becomes repetitive or boring I can just stop.
Of course sometimes you need to push against this a bit when you know there is a slightly unpleasant section blocking more enjoyable content. The big takeaway is that it’s ok to stop if you’re not enjoying yourself anymore. No one is gonna check or care.
Percy Jackson is written as having ADHD, because the writer’s son had it. I liked it, but maybe the “it’s actually a super power” thing might rub some people the wrong way.
Often what people call “dandruff” is not actually dandruff. You might have dry scalp, which causes flakyness and the dandruff shampoos do nothing to help (I’d argue they even make the dryness worse!)
In my case it was dandruff and what made a huge difference is to wash twice in a row (lather, rinse, repeat). I leave the shampoo in my head for a bit on the second wash while I do my other shower business.