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It already supports single player 🩷 Enemy health, poise, and runes are adjusted to balance the lack of teammates. You can also buy a few Wending Graces that will allow you to self-revive since you won’t have teammates to revive you. Some of the final day bosses can actually be easier to manage solo. I sooo recommend the game, and I also recommend giving multiplayer a chance when you’re comfortable with the overall loop and navigating the map. While I do occasionally get a mess of a team, I would say the majority of my matchmade runs have been super smooth and fun!

I’ve had amazing success with the tucking panties from tcomfifits. I just can’t do the tape method, and these always hold everything in place when I’m out! I’ll wear them the entire day and rarely feel any discomfort. My only wish is that they had a few more styles, buuut I received an email from them recently that made it seem like they might be expanding their options!

When I was growing up I sooo had this! It was a universe that had every character I liked from books, shows, movies, comics, etc. It lasted for well over a decade, but it became super draining on my mind as I got older since I couldn’t turn it off… And, most likely autism driven, I would often verbalize the sounds and actions playing in my mind. It took a lot of mental effort to finally end the story!

I use patches alongside spiro and progesterone. I can’t recommend patches enough! Injections give me crazy dysphoria, so I turned that option down immediately.

Sooo cute! I have a pair of stuffed bunnies that I cuddle to sleep with 🩷 I can microwave them/heat them up when I really need something warm and calming. I hope you enjoy your new friend 🐇

A month or so ago, I was debating if I wanted to upgrade/build a new PC. I eventually decided that if I waited any longer, I’d not just be paying more but might also lose access to certain components I had my eye on- their Y70 Touch Infinite cases being one of those. Super happy I decided to go for it since everything has increased in price, and it seems like we’ll be seeing less of many things from overseas… also it turned out sooo beautiful!

Maybe 4… and by understand, I mean they have experienced my highs when I have something in my life to temporarily hyperfixate over that brings me so much joy - but also my incredible lows during burnout periods. They’ve been caught in my emotional storms and have continued to be there when I eventually even out (sometimes many months later). They understand I can be highly emotional and prone to crumbling under sadness and stress.

The other people in my life know I’m on the spectrum, but I don’t think they necessarily get it.

I would say the biggest difference I notice is communication. I tend to need full honesty and full commitment. I’m super incompatible with people who think small lies are better than uncomfortable and honest conversations or who make plans and don’t follow through with them.

I wish I had a good answer… most of my life, I was raised by a single parent. I love my mom, but she’s no doubt also on the spectrum, and she was incredibly overprotective and wasn’t the best at managing her emotions. After I turned 18 and started community college, I really pushed for my independence. She didn’t do too well with this and was constantly telling me I wasn’t allowed to leave without her permission and set an arbitrary curfew for me. I pushed back, she got super upset, changed the locks on me one day, and I was forced to live in my car (until I totalled it), friends’ floors, and eventually a small shelter specifically for people struggling with mental health issues. I really hated that shelter since it was rigid and I had no privacy… I learned independence to survive. I’m in my 30s, living in my own, and I feel I’ll always be playing catch up. I wasn’t taught how to handle different life obstacles well or how to navigate my intense emotions, especially when it came to friendships, relationships, and work-life.

We’re semi-fortunate to have the internet and access to large amounts of information. I leverage it constantly to help me figure out and understand how to solve problems in my life. Obviously, research is important and not acting impulsively (not the easiest). For your question, I think figuring out what specific things you’d like to plan or research would be helpful!

I moved to Affinity early this year, and it has been amazing!! I was expecting a long adjustment period after decades with Photoshop, but it’s so similar that I picked it up super quick!

Yes yes! Thank you! When I was looking into Fidelity’s target funds I found ones labeled as mutual funds that sound super similar to what you described. I looked through the different industries and put some money towards those! I also just read into the difference between the two and will definitely be researching some ETF to invest into.

Omg thank you sooo much!! This is exactly the simple and straightforward investment I needed! I also found a few other funds/growth symbols that seemed easy to understand. I’d eventually like to educate myself more on this whole topic, but right now simple is all my brain can handle 🤭

Kind of a similar-ish question. I recently moved my 401k from an old employer to my personal account. All my money is now sitting uninvested. As much as I’d love to hire someone to look over my accounts, I can’t really justify that at the moment. In the most basic way possible, can anyone suggest specific indexes, stocks, whatever the terminology is that I should or could invest my money into?

I do understand your stance on this; the first rule does say women only… is it exclusive, oh definitely, but there are so many other communities that can support the same topics that are open to everyone. I think if the admins/mods of that community would like a space for women to talk to other women, we should just let them do their thing 🩷 I don’t think they are saying only women can like those things, but sometimes girls just want to have their own space (I’m one of those girls). Buut it’s a super new community, and they may rethink and adjust their rules!

That might be the case! It’s been super affordable for me vs the convenience of it all… and I’m currently unemployed and without insurance. I have too much dysphoria and trauma associated with pinning, so injections are a no-go for me. The patches that I am prescribed are just magic 🪄 They also have great discounts for labs, and goodrx super helps with the hrt costs.

I go through a service called Folx Health. They have been absolutely AMAZING for me. I would highly suggest anyone in the US to look into them. I had one video appointment, and that same day was picking up my HRT. Outside of labs once or twice a year, you’re only required to meet with them again annually for another video appointment. You can definitely setup more appointments and even use them for general care/pcp things - I just had one to get tretinoin prescribed to me. You can use insurance or not; I’m currently uninsured and paying out of pocket, and they have super reasonable prices. They can also provide lists and resources for different doctors if you choose to undergo any surgeries.

My body has always had trouble keeping on fat, and I was actually excited at the idea that my metabolism might change and help me gain some. I honestly haven’t noticed it slow down, BUT I can say that my breast growth definitely has not been impacted by this. I’ll also add that my eating habits are…less than ideal. I have a small breakfast around 11am and then a dinner of varying size in the evening (and usually some ice cream). I do try to get myself to snack and eat an additional meal, but it rarely happens as much as I’d like. Soooo, purely based on my experience, you should be okay 🩷 Just make sure to take a good multivitamin if you don’t have a super balanced diet!

Ahhh! I had a similar shift in mentality! Breast growth was probably the lowest thing on my list of desired changes. As my body, emotions, and mind started changing, my concerns/apprehension completely melted away. When they started to grow, it all just felt right and so normal. I think it also helped that I had a fairy built chest pre-transition, so as the muscle started to shrink and the fat started to redistribute, it wasn’t super noticeable or jarring. Now I’m in a headspace where I’m just excited to see how they change; if they get bigger, I’d love that, and if they don’t- that’ll make buying the clothes I like easier 🤭

This would be amazing! I’m an audiophile, and my best equipment is all connected to my PC. I’ve kind of avoided the voice apps for phones because I’d rather use my normal mic and audio chain. As for OS - Windows. All this said, there’s a variety of software that can chart frequency, pitch, etc from an input (mic in this case), BUT I’d love dedicated software for voice training and will be following along with your development 🩷

Late 20s to early 30s. It was during lockdowns when I wasn’t interacting with irl society much - work was all remote, and all my interactions were online. I quickly realized that when I removed the pressure of having to conform to what I thought was expected of me, I was actually a completely different person. I started interacting with more queer people, especially trans individuals, and realized that there were a lot of parallels with how they felt about gender and all the other constructs of society which never really made sense to me. Honestly, I meant sooo many when I started FFXIV.

The idea that I could decide how I wanted to identify and be perceived by people never really occurred to me.

I had always disliked a lot of aspects about myself and tried to be as much of a ghost as possible. It rarely felt like I was living for me. As I slowly started to explore the things I truly liked - cute things, pink things, and soft things - I noticed my views of life started to brighten. I felt more excited about the things I was surrounding myself with, and I noticed people were interacting with me in a friendlier and warmer way. As I started to shine brighter, people around me started to shine brighter, too!

All that said - why didn’t I just lean into identifying as NB or just fully ignore gender as a whole? I did initially, but about those things which I didn’t like about myself - so many happened to be T driven. Thick body and facial hair- no thank you, thick/rough/acne prone skin- please go, body composition- wasn’t really liking how it fit in the dresses/skirts I wanted to wear, overall mindset and emotions (this changed a lot), etc. Obviously, all these things have taken time and additional effort, but it all feels so fulfilling.

I was initially worried about how people in my life would react/treat me, but I decided to start always putting my own feelings and desires first… no one else was going to. I will acknowledge that it’s bit easier for me to do that- my circle is incredibly small, I’ve been single for 5-6 years, I was working remotely, and I kind of rarely leave my home.

My question to people - if you had an irl character creator, how would you design yourself? How would you choose to move in the world if there were no expectations?

Yesss! Enjoy!! The effects on skin were one of the big aspects of hrt that I was super looking forward to! It was so frustrating having a dedicated skincare routine and constantly fighting all the issues that testosterone creates. One of my favorite things at the end of the day is just petting myself 🤭