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Cake day: October 17th, 2023

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  • As a cis male who never experienced dysphoria I can’t relate to your feelings. Exploring who you are is a great choice. You are 14 you don’t need to make any concrete decisions about who you are. You might not be what your agab was and you might not truly identify as a female but from my limited understanding it’s a spectrum so don’t decide who you are find it out. Best of luck, I hope you have great people to surround you at home, If you don’t find your people and leave the baggage behind.




  • I didn’t want kids til I met my wife when I was 38. I knew she was the one pretty early on and I knew that if I wanted to to keep dating her I’d have to reconsider my position. I had my first kid at 40 and my 2nd is on the way, and being a father is awesome.

    I ended a 5 1/2 year relationship because I didn’t want kids with her. The partner you’re with definitely matters.







  • I’m really laid back and have given them a long time to learn our code base and how to contribute. When I have to pull multiple all nighters and the end of a long release cycle to fix or finish what they worked on it’s not worth it. I basically can only code at night because I spend my day in meetings, planning or next release or helping people with their stuff.

    We work remote so either they are really dumb and won’t ever get it or they slack off all the time and wait till the last min to slap shit together and it isn’t right.


  • They are literally useless. even when something is explained to them they still mess it up, or need the same thing explained again the next time. Most of the commits they have was someone wasting their time to explain change by change how to do it. It would have been worth the time investment if they learned and were able to do things on their own. at this point but they aren’t and freeing up the people who have to consistently spend their time helping them will be a net positive in productivity.