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Cake day: October 17th, 2023

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  • Know your financials, income and outflow. Use a credit card for everything but pay it off every month don’t over spend.

    Unless you have a full ride scholarship do your general education at a community college.

    If you don’t want to go to school join a trade union apprenticeship program. Talk to your local unions while you’re still in highschool so you can be prepared for the process.

    IMO electrician > plumber/pipefitter > HVAC > the rest. Carpenter might be above HVAC but I didn’t really talk with any of them. I got hurt in my final year of my plumbing apprenticeship, I did graduate and become a journeyman plumber but left the field shortly after graduation to avoid back surgery. I’m a software engineer now.

    Wait for kids. Learn to cook. Exercise. Work hard. Read. No nicotine, cocaine, opioids or other fiercely addictive substances. Everything else in moderation Don’t rush to have sex, but I’m def not advocating waiting till marriage.

    Didn’t settle in your relationships, just because you’ve been together a long time doesn’t mean it needs to be forever. I didn’t marry or give up my desire to not have kids with my 5.5 year relationship. Turns out I just didn’t want kids with her. Imeet my wife 3 years later married her after a year and intentionally had a kid the following year(more than 9 months after our wedding thank you very much)











  • As a cis male who never experienced dysphoria I can’t relate to your feelings. Exploring who you are is a great choice. You are 14 you don’t need to make any concrete decisions about who you are. You might not be what your agab was and you might not truly identify as a female but from my limited understanding it’s a spectrum so don’t decide who you are find it out. Best of luck, I hope you have great people to surround you at home, If you don’t find your people and leave the baggage behind.




  • I didn’t want kids til I met my wife when I was 38. I knew she was the one pretty early on and I knew that if I wanted to to keep dating her I’d have to reconsider my position. I had my first kid at 40 and my 2nd is on the way, and being a father is awesome.

    I ended a 5 1/2 year relationship because I didn’t want kids with her. The partner you’re with definitely matters.