My relationship with gender didn’t so much manifest that way.

Before I came out and accepted myself, I openly told myself I “should have been a girl”, but I also believed I wasn’t, and that was that. I didn’t really feel anything at the idea of femininity. That was my experience of feeling gender

This is just regular moderation, though.

It’s using the existing tool, but making a small portion of them (approving applications) available to a much larger pool of people

it doesn’t resolve the question I raised about what happens when two instances disagree about whether an account is a bot.

If the instance that hosts it doesn’t think it’s a bot, then it stays, but is blocked by the instance that does think its a bot.

And if the instance that thinks its a bot also hosts it, it gets shut down.

That is regular fediverse moderation

Yeah, but that’s after the fact, and after their content has federated to other instances.

It doesn’t solve the bot problem, but just plays whack a mole with them, whilst creating an ever large amount of moderation work, due to it federating to multiple instances.

Solving the bot problem means stopping the content from federating, which either means stopping the bot accounts from registering, or stopping them from federating until they’re known to be legit.

I mean, approving users, you just let your regular established users approve instance applications. All they need to do is stop the egregious bots from getting through. And if there is enough of them, the applications will be processed really quickly. If there is any doubt about an application, let them through, because they can be caught afterwards. And historical applications are already visible, and easily checked if someone has a complaint.

And if you don’t like the idea of trusted users being able to moderate new accounts, you can tinker with that idea. Let accounts start posting before their application has been approved, but stop their content from federating outwards until an instance staff member approves them. It would let people post right away without requiring approval, and still get some interaction, but it would mitigate the damage that bots can do, by containing them to a single instance.

My point is, there are options that could be implemented. The status quo of open sign ups, with a growing number of bots doesn’t have to be the unquestioned approach going forward.

How do you figure that? There’s nothing centralised about it

Make sign ups require approval and create a “trusted user” permission level that lets the regular trusted users on the instance see and process pending sign up requests and suspend/delete brand new spam accounts (say under 24 hours old) that slip through the cracks. You can have dozens of people across all timezones capable of approving requests as the are made, and capable of shutting down the bots that slip through.

Boom, bot problem solved

It sounds like depersonalisation to me. A form of dissociation.

Lots of trans people deal with it when they’re closeted. I know I did.

I don’t understand. Why not do whatever you normally do to edit and post videos?

Make a video telling people you’ve moved

Kagi has an LLM community register they automatically use to filter their results

Time travel/alternate dimension stories that don’t just use infinite dimensions as a cheap way of avoiding complexity. Once you have infinite timelines, it’s all meaningless, because whatever story you’re trying to tell loses all sense of importance, because whatever didn’t happen in one version still happens in another. Who cares if the character saves their family, when there are an infinite variety of worlds where they’re not saved.

It’s possible to tell stories about infinite timelines, where the weirdness of having infinite duplicates is an important part of the story (Dark Matter).

It’s possible to tell stories where there are alternate timelines, but only a finite number (The Peripheral/Counterpart/Alice)

And it’s possible to tell stories where there is only one timeline, and gracefully navigate the paradox (The Pern Series/All You Zombies/11.22.63)

I can’t get enough of stories that handle it well!

I used photoprism for a long time, but when I tried immich, I dropped photoprism in an instant.

When I was 19/20 (decades ago) I moved to the city to go to University. One of my housemates came out as trans many years later, and a few years before me, but while we were in the house, both of us were closeted and in denial.

He and I used to sit on the front deck of the house, playing cards and talking in to the night. I often wonder what would have happened in both of our lives if at any point, we had have got to talking about gender, and felt comfortable coming out to each other (and ourselves) way back then.

But, we didn’t have that conversation then… We both still found our way though. You will too :)

Dreaming Spanish. It’s an online video based approach, but their very early stage lessons basically do what the OP was talking about, in video form. They’ll tell a story about a kid who goes on an excursion at school and gets up to mischief, and they’ll flash in pictures and drawings to make sure you understand the context of what they’re saying.

The further you get in to it, the less they use images and drawings, but in the early stages, they’re a core part of the system

If only it wasn’t so cold! :)

I’ve never seen snow except through an airplane window

It depends on what those opposing viewpoints are. If they involve actively targeting and harming vulnerable people, I have no space at all for those viewpoints or the people that hold them.

For the other stuff, maybe a 7.

Speaking from my own experience, I would say it’s effective, but not fast, but leads to better results in the end.

None of that is why I use it though. I simply enjoy it more this way.

I’ve been learning Spanish though a similar method

Well, in that regards, they’re similar to blahaj, as in, our instance doesn’t just have trans communities. Our user base is focused on trans and gender diverse folk however. Hexbear, similarly, has all sorts of communities, but their userbase is focused on shared politics, even though their areas of discussion are not restricted to that.