You’re right about that, and if I ever do go back, that will be why! But the sameness I was talking about is more the cultural identities of the countries. Every place we stayed felt like it could be transplanted to Australia, and fit right in. It might be different if I wasn’t Australian :)

I’ve never been to the US, so I can’t say I won’t go there again, but I can say I won’t go there at all.

But in terms of countries I have been to, probably New Zealand. There’s nothing wrong with New Zealand, but it feels too much like Australia, and baring me suddenly developing an unlimited amount of time and money, there are other places I would rather go

Piefed and lemmy are both group actor based activitypub platforms, and Piefed is explicitly designed to be compatible with lemmy, simply because lemmy has the traction/momentum in the activitypub niche they both exist in.

The difference isn’t protocol based, it’s just a piefed design decision and one that could easily be changed if a dev gets the chance to put some time in to it.

I use Kagi. Paying for a search engine isn’t something that I ever saw myself doing, but I do honestly believe it’s the only way they can exist that means the users are the customers instead of the product.

The thing that makes them right wing is the exclusions they place on their “progressive” policies. It’s always the vulnerable

Swedish right-wing populist party Sverigedemokraterna explicitly support that:

They don’t support housing for everyone because they don’t believe that non western foreigners should be allowed in to the country, and they don’t believe that people who aren’t “culturally Danish” are citizens.

So they don’t believe in housing for all

German right-wing populist party Alternative für Deutschland is led by a lesbian who calls her party "the only real protective force for gays and lesbians in Germany

They’re an explicitly transphobic party who doesn’t extend queer rights to trans people, even if they’re gay or lesbian. They actively practice discrimination against LGBTQ folk.

See if there’s a front runners group in your area. They’re an international queer running group.

The distro I find easiest to recommend to folk in my life looking to move to Linux is the distro that I’m using/most familiar with, because it makes it easier to help them out if they run in to an issue.

I use CachyOS, and previously, I was trying to support Mint etc, but having zero experience with the way the way Mint handles packages, with its default apps, update process etc, I found myself having to research an OS I don’t use, and offer 2nd hand advice. I moved them over to CachyOS, and even though technically, it’s not as beginner friendly, my day to day familiarity with it meant that it was easier to help out when troubles arose.

Not sure about the “fine with learning” part. I’m fine with learning, but learning isn’t my primary motivation, but more like a bonus!

That being said, it did neatly capture why I chose CachyOS over Arch!

Lemmy doesn’t log IP addresses, and lbz doesn’t require email addresses to register (though that can make resetting passwords challenging). If you’re on lbz and you’ve registered with an email address, you’re free to remove it if you have any concerns!

when I’m feeling sad, I find myself going on r/terf_trans_alliance, and then I feel worse.

That sub exists specifically to prey on folk like you. Folk that are struggling with internalised transphobia and self worth issues.

Transphobes (and bigots in general) actively seek people they can demonstrate their bigotry against. It’s performative, to improve their in group cohesion, and it addresses their own self worth issues and let’s them feel empowered.

That sub exists purely to attract people for them to prey on.

They’re preying on you, because hurting you and folk like you brings them joy.

You stop going, because even though dealing with your own self image can be a long battle, it’s a battle you can navigate without empowering them.

Yes! It has automated scans which will pick them up

Before I accepted myself, I used to dream of this sort of post singularity future.

But now… Being in the human body I was born with caused crippling dysphoria until I was able to do something about it. So now, I wonder, what most of those bodies just end up being uncomfortable and triggering dysphoria again?

Obviously, there would be some choices that wouldn’t, but I have to wonder, if the further away I got from the “base model”, the more dysphoria might come back to say hi

To answer it seriously, for me, it’s not specifically cis, but more broadly, queer. I need someone who has faced the assumptions that society forces on them and knows how to exist in the world anyway, having faced those assumptions, questioned them and found their own relationship with themselves.

tl;dr I need people who have had to question who they are and find themselves, rather than someone who has never had to answer those questions.

Instance binned!

In my experience (as a trans woman who has experienced both sides of this coin), I can no longer get away with being topless in most situations. However, I can get away with wearing less in more situations. It’s acceptable for me to wear a short cut, sleeveless tank top or boob tube in situations where it would be difficult for a guy to wear a singlet or other sleeveless top.

I’ve got dark hair and white skin, and it took about a dozen or so treatments, and I’d say it got rid of 99.9% of my hair permanently. However, experience tells me most people don’t get that level of effectiveness.

YSK then that Piefed has a subscription feature

Yep, blahaj.zone admin :)