Also CO is wildly recommended and not for everyone. Like, I love it immensely, I’m still early in and it’s feeding hungers I’ve not realized I have in fantasy and video games, but it’s dark, extremely French, artsy, and is a turn based game with skill dodge/parry as a major mechanic. There are going to be people who pick it up because goty, then don’t like it because of what it is, just like BG3 had.

I hate the idea that you shouldn’t freely provide joy to those around you for the sheer satisfaction of making it. The mammonite brain rot runs deep in a lot of people unfortunately

I want to work a reasonable amount, and have enough time and money to create for my own pleasure if I so choose. I don’t even mind content creation in theory, I see it no different from writing or doing art. It’s the constant pursuit of more, more, more, both status and money, that gets to me. I want freedom, security, and comfort.

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Yeah even when I awoke to a home invader, what was I going to do, groggily shoot someone I didn’t recognize that had started running?

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Idk I feel like filming all three seasons of mistborn in one stretch could work. That said, it really lends itself to arcane/spiderverse style animation

Damn, look at that couch fucker

Very sexy couches, is what JD Vance is looking for

Aaaah why is JD Vance fucking my couch

No, JD Vance won’t choose to fuck his wife instead of a couch

Crap, JD Vance is fucking another couch

Egads, JD Vance really puts the love in loveseat

Ah the feminizing the name of your political opponents thing. Of course

I see where they’re coming from. It’s a common demand straight men make of women while our culture sees body hair as very masculine rather than the biological element where testosterone is one if several reasons a person may have very thick body hair. And there’s a hypervigilance at times when it comes to cis partners of trans people because enough members of our community have been burned, especially those who date chasers.

That said, having known my fair share of gay men, yeah I wouldn’t jump to transphobia. Especially if you’re kinda twinky.

I’ve been bioluminescent in the IR spectrum for over 3 decades. Fortunately my physician referred me to a physicist about it

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I’m reminded of the cycle of abuse and the passing on of personality disorders from parent to child. They’re so obsessed with their own trauma that they’re gleefully doing to others what was done to them. They don’t see the similarities and have come to see the problem with what was done to them more in who it was done to than what was done.

This is also interesting because I see it significantly less in Jewish communities outside Israel. Sure, there are plenty who side with Israel no matter what and believe whatever they say, but in Israel it’s different, it’s like nearly the whole country has lost its mind and soul.

It’s also important to note that each of the Apostles literally did it. They abandoned their property and families (some were married with children) and they followed him. The command to sell everything, give the money to the poor, and follow him is something this man could see was possible because 12 people there had done it.

If anything I’d say your example is less that religion is inherently a tool of the state, but more that if you gain enough influence without destroying it the state you oppose will teach your corpse to dance.

Yeah I’ve met some priests, monks and nuns, some had even taken a vow of poverty. Non-ordained Christians? Of course not, who has?

Because I’m not interested in having a profile picture and idk even what it would be

You’re not a bad person, she’s more correct, but this is a change in language in process. The bad person thing is to lash out against others doing it as some have.

Also, good on you for actually listening to gentle correction from a friend. That’s something a lot of people struggle with and lash out against

Yeah I’ll begin by saying anger issues are one of the areas CBT and DBT shine. This is because anger is a very misunderstood emotion. Its job is to protect you, and in a person with good emotional regulation, a healthy understanding of danger, and a healthy perception of the self it’s a very useful emotion. It’s just that we’re often wired to jump at shadows and those three caveats play an important role.

So what do you actually do about it though? You start by figuring out how you process emotions. Some people like my wife are internal processors. They need alone time just thinking about their feelings to understand them. Some like me are external processors who need to talk about it to understand it.

For anger I’ve moved to basically having an internal dialog with an imaginary therapist who just asks me questions like “and how did you feel” or “and why do you feel that way”. They’re all questions cbt told me to ask myself. The goal is to first determine if my anger is an appropriate response. If it is, then I start trying to determine what the best way to act on it is. But far more likely, I’m moving towards asking what threat I percieved, and what cognitive distortions lead to that. Maybe I’m defending my ego, and in reality the ego is actually what’s hurting me. Maybe I’m seeing people who hurt me before in the actions of people who deserve grace, and failing to understand that everybody fucks up sometimes.

Whatever the distortion is you acknowledge it, but refute it. “I feel unfairly attacked, but I know that that person’s point was legitimate criticism that they felt I needed to hear.” Or “I feel like my partner is nitpicking and never gives me a break, but I know that words like always and never are cognitive distortions, what I need is to calm down and figure out if this criticism is valid or if it’s fair for me to request more grace and to attempt to change behavior where it is valid.”

But yeah, take a walk, the movement is good for getting the emotions out and thinking. And look for where your brain is lying to you. CBT and DBT are best administered by professionals, and if it feels like it’s just talk therapy it probably is. This is the sort of therapy a lot of therapists assign workbooks for. If therapy isn’t an option there are books on the topic and you can just buy the workbooks. But self administered therapy is a lot like any other form of self administered medical care, sure you may save a lot of money and get great results, but you’re also at risk of fucking up and now needing to hire a professional to fix your mistakes.

Learn to recognize it and step away. Taking a walk really does help. Decisions made in anger cannot be undone. Most mature people will hear “hey I’m feeling pretty emotional about this topic, I’m going to go clear my head and think on it for a half hour or so” and understand and let you go with little to no judgment. As you get into that habit you’re likely to find yourself less and less aggressive. You instinctively do what you practice doing, right now that may be lashing out, but hard work can change that.

Having parents who were really bad at emotional regulation resulted in me not really being taught it well. But I found myself embarrassing myself and hurting those around me. I got big on walking my feelings out, and started using the CBT techniques I learned for anxiety, and they worked. Eventually it really became second nature. Big feelings are now followed by introspection. In the rare cases I snap at someone it’s immediately followed by an apology, stepping away, and introspection with an appropriate for the situation explanation.