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  • I think this question greatly depends on where you live. Is uni free where you live? I’m guessing not from you mentioning the cost of a degree and debt. Then how does the debt work? In some countries, the government issues student loans that are repaid much less stringently than most loans, and it’s not a big deal.

    Depending on how the system works where you are, I’d weigh up the financial cost of going back to school vs what you would gain from it. What are you looking to get? Education for the sake of education? A better job, such that the financial cost of the degree will repay itself? The uni experience you missed out on? Something else? How much do you value that thing compared to how much it will cost you?






  • Is the silicone used in anal toys different than the one used for vaginal toys?

    I can answer this question specifically, no idea about egg vibrators in general. If it is actual silicone (and be careful, a lot of cheap Amazon sex toys are not actual silicone), then it’s non-porous and body-safe. In terms of pathogenic safety, any silicone toy can be used both vaginally and anally, and shouldn’t grow bacteria/mould/etc inside it. Toys made specifically for anal will be made of harder silicone to make sure it can penetrate, and you probably know this but should have a flared base for anal. But some toys designed for vaginas also satisfy those qualities.

    Actual silicone can be safely boiled. I boil my dildos to disinfect them (after washing with soap and water first). I use gentle pH-neutral soap so as to not damage the toys.





  • GTK? Depends on how important cross-platform support is for you. I’ve heard GTK programs don’t look great on Windows, but it does support Windows. GTK is written in C as well—Qt is in C++ so that might be where some of your problems are coming from, I’ve not tried making any kind of GUIs in C though.


  • It does, but people of any gender can be abusers etc. It is a real problem that lesbian survivors of abuse from a female partner find it difficult to escape their partner because their partners are e.g. allowed into women’s shelters. It’s also not hard to understand that the environment of homophobia and misogyny leads to many women and girls getting into toxic relationships with each other where abuse can develop. I say this as a lesbian who was in some unhealthy relationships in my teen years. A lot of lesbians have similar experiences. I’m not saying that lesbians are predatory on a level comparable with straight men, but I am saying that narratives around abuse and violence completely ignore the violence that LGBT people may experience in their own relationships. Judging by OP’s profile picture they are also a young lesbian.