fadingembers

This will probably be controversial, but as a millennial I’d change over to be a zoomer if I could

This is how I feel about music

With enough time and money, passing is never unattainable. You just need a plan. It being comforting makes perfect sense.

It sounds like you’re hurting yourself by hiding your identity from others.

You may pass with HRT or you may not. It doesn’t hurt to have a plan to make yourself as comfortable in your own body as you can be. If that includes FFS then so be it, there is no shame in making a plan to get it. And who knows, while you wait for surgery you may even begin to pass as time goes on. My face has looked completely different every year that I’ve been on HRT.

There’s also no shame in identifying as whatever makes you feel the most comfortable and the most safe. It is completely understandable. Lord knows we all wish we could be so confident in ourselves no matter what, but we have to do what we can to survive.

I still boy mode outside of work and friends because I don’t feel safe being seen as trans by strangers and it hurts less when I am misgendered because at least I’m not trying.

My advice for now, try not to fixate on what about your face is causing you to not pass. In most cases it’s not any one part but how things fit together and in any case the FFS surgeon will know best. Also, please try your best not to let “not passing” stop you from living your life.

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