More on the barren-side/minimalism side of the spectrum. However, I also live in a student dorm and move quite a lot, so that also contributes.

Gg! Or something, I dunno.

It is pretty normal to not feel a lot. I actually felt weighed down by the diagnosis. Different people have different experiences, your feeling is absolutely valid.

I personally choose to not disclose mg diagnosis unless it brings me benefits. Basically I disclose it e.g. when it comes to accommodations (e.g. apartment or in university), and I’ve told a few close friends, but generally I prefer keeping it private.

In the end I think it is important for you to figure out what your diagnosis means for you: is it a part of you, but other parts are independent from it, or does the diagnosis define you? It comes a bit down to the person vs identity first approach.

Also don’t forget the diagnosis doesn’t change you as a person. I’d heavily recommend continuing your life as before, without implementing ant large changes for now. Give it time to settle.

I would urge people to be careful how much we think disabled people (might) suffer. My mom is colorblind (she sees the whole world in shades of white or black), and her vision strength is 5% or lower. She is definitely disabled and receives a pension for not being able to work. Still, she managed to build up some form of existence: she managed to start an education and became a masseuse, and she gave birth to me and my brother. If my grandma would’ve known that my mom will not be able to live on her own, she maybe wouldn’t have proceeded with the pregnancy. Then I wouldn’t be here either.

My conclusion: what do you define by disability? If it is a chronic disease which means your child will be in pain their whole life, it is very different than having a child who isn’t able to “function” normally, but isn’t inherently in pain. Over my mom I met a lot of other disabled people, and most of them have built up an existence and lead a life. My mom wouldn’t agree that she is forced to suffer her whole life.

No one is forced to bear out a child. You are not morally responsible to bear out a child, in my opinion. But we shouldn’t assume we know how this person will grow and develop during their lives.

I have to fight the urge to start a debate if trains or ships are cooler