He does content? He can be a bit aggressive about his topics, that can rub people the wrong way.

I don’t think he did anything offensively, legally or morally wrong.

I know just he exists, I don’t follow his content.

I recommend these two books:

PR! - A Social History of Spin

manufacturing consent

They’re older, but I don’t think you need “modern examples”, once you understand how it works, the techniques immediately and obviously apply to social media.

I think saying it’s a [code hosting platform] instance is selling it a bit short.

They’re a registered club with official recognized “public benefit” status. They were specifically created to have a non commercial and community / society based choice for code hosting.

I don’t understand why the R4L are even trying to get it into THE kernel at this point. Especially after the open hostility, but also after basically offering to be “downstream” of whatever C people do.

The difference to forking and gradually transitioning things to Rust seem technically minimally negative and socially enormously positive to me.

And when and if people want to use the linux kernel with Rust, made by the R4L people, they would then be able to do that? Idk.

I have no stakes in either side, so I don’t really care.

I would say, the “real” “actually” is more of that.

The “ackshually” is more knowning that people can be like that and being a bit sarcastic about it.

As in “actually, X, but only someone really sweaty and pedantic would make that point earnestly, which I’m not”.

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I think fundamentally, it’s about what kind of person you want to be, psychologically.

There is no problem with a self image that’s not “puritan” and then the actions that reflect that. If you think of yourself as having a style and attitude and projecting and communicating that, aggressively, it’s fine to be who you want to be. E.g. punks dressing as punks, “expensive brand stuff”, or tattoos or plastic surgery.

Being about your attitude towards other people can also just be “you”. So I wouldn’t worry about doing it for yourself or doing it for “other people”.

I would make 100% sure to talk about it with your husband, this is a thing you definitely don’t want to backfire. Maybe be dislikes the idea of plastic surgery more than he would like the new shape.

By contrast, if you work in a public service job, or in a big office and there is competition and how you dress is part of office politics and competition and the difference between getting clients to sign or not, that is where I would say you’re dressing for other people. Same if you’re in a punk band and worried about not being “punk enough” and getting piercings or whatever because of that, to fit in and not necessarily because you like the idea of piercings.

I generally don’t think modifying your own body is a good idea, and it’s unnecessary. The whole “if someone demands to be impressed, they are not worth impressing” thing.

But it is your body, do what you want.

Also inform yourself about the medical side of things, as mentioned by others.

I wish you happiness with your decision either way.

idk, I’ve been using xubuntu for more than 10 years now, I’m not happy with absolutely everything, but the trouble I do have is definitely less effort to fix than learning a new, more elaborate distro.

So, it’s a pretty good, common denominator, and as long as it keeps working it doesn’t really need to be anything else?

I’m sure there are differences and niches that other distros fulfill better, but until there is a killer feature I’m interested in that only works on a specific distro or works extremely well on a different distro, I don’t see the “push” factor that would make me leave?

(btw, that there is no “report bugs here” button that’s just built into the window manager (besides the -,+,x buttons) and takes me to project home pages or bug trackes is wild to me, on any distro as far as I know. Like they don’t want to interact with users? I don’t get it.)

Not really, I wouldn’t watch big names though, they’re going to pump out the same stuff as always.

I would expect new and good games to continue to come out and I’m looking forward to them.

The same way you take an interest in any other person.

Ask them what they like and why they like it. Make it clear that you would like to understand.

And absolutely do NOT react in any way negatively. No “that’s it”, no nothing, no “ew”, no disappointment, nothing. If he tells you he watches paint dry in his free time, ask him what color and if you can join him some time. And be persistent and try make specific plans, I have relatives I like with shared hobbies and we barely manage to schedule something.

If your son already has a hobby it’s kind of easier because you can ask him about things he did and things he finds inspiring. If he’s doing performance or sports, you can watch and support him doing that? Shop for equipment together, etc… If he has a competitive, creative problem don’t pressure him and reassure him.

If he likes media, try to lend some of his and try to enjoy it. Usually, even with hobbies you dislike, there is a point where it’s somewhat interesting if you are motivated to learn about it. That does take some time though and you will need to invest that time. You can just weave in a quick “… and how is your [x] going”. That’s reserved for more distant relatives.

But also he’s 15 so none of that may work for biological reasons.

And also, it takes two. If you want to bond, but he does not, period, there isn’t really much you can do, except persistently offer it.