I’m still undiagnosed too, but I have my first diagnostic appointment scheduled in March. I was in a similar situation as you, there’s only one single doctor for adult ADHD in my state, which is why I first had to wait almost a year for the waiting list to open and then another 4 months until the actual appointment.

I’m pinning all my hopes on this diagnosis. My ADHD traits have been causing a lot of friction in my previous relationship and the first issues are emerging in my current one.

I can’t say if it will make your stress go away, but maybe the focus you gain will eliminate some of the causes of stress. If you really suspect you might have ADHD, I can only advise you to look into it. Maybe there are self-help groups in your area that you can use to bridge the gap until you get an official diagnosis.

Exactly. Knowing something in a variety of fields enabled me to fix devices and appliances, work on my car, do all kinds of home crafts, bond with people over shared interests, dive into more complex topics, the list goes on. I never needed to call a technician/craftsmen. And I certainly don’t want to be a worker drone that can do one thing and one thing only (not meant to sound condescending).

As Adam Savage once said:

Jack of all trades, master of none, though often better than a master of one

and that’s the hill I’m willing to die on