It’s not contradictory. Feelings and actions are not the same thing.

Maybe I really like ice cream (feeling), but it don’t actually want to eat it (action) because I’m worried about something unrelated, like my weight.

Yes, absolutely. Both are possible. Different peoplwith different experiences and tendencies operate differently.

Also, there are lots of different types of love. https://www.ftd.com/blog/types-of-love

Assume this is not meant to be NSFW?

Then I’ll do it. If it doesn’t cost me too much. I can’t see someone else’s perspective really, but I can at least be empathetic…

Yeah, that’s always gotta be true to some extent… If not, then the apology is gonna be insincere anyway. But it doesn’t mean that the regret has to be massive for you for the apology to be valid or useful.

I get that this is a joke, but there’s a good point there too: I don’t give apologies because they were demanded, if give them because I can see that they’d help improve the situation.

Yeah, I’m definitely assuming good faith above. I’m lucky that I’m mostly surrounded by people for whom that assumption makes sense.

Yes… Apologies aren’t about fault for me. They are about recognising other’s suffering, and possibly about acknowledging my contribution to that situation.

The apology isn’t about you, it’s about the other person, and showing you care about them.

Something to fill time while waiting for the kebab you ordered?

I wasn’t taking about an individual, I was talking about humans as a species and culture.

No. You can read signs. Like foot prints, or fire scars. Or you can count actually objects before you invent tallying.

I’ve been finding that a) google is the fucking worst, most others do better, and b) results on the 2nd and 3rd pages are becoming more and more relevant.

Relationships are complex. What’s “cheating” for some people is fine for others. And there’s usually a million factors complicating everything. Maybe you’re mum’s a bit naive, maybe she’s bang on. Both can be true in different ways.

Tiktok would be pulling most away

Grammar that doesn’t cause headspins is a personal boundary, right?

True that.

Just getting in to TTRPGs properly. It seems like a way to really solidify friendships, rather than to find new ones. But that’s still very valuable!

Social hobbies are where it’s at. I’ve never met anyone meaningful at a concert. Hobbies (and activism) though, all the people all the time.

“Don’t have much time”… I guess it it’s important to you, you should figure out how to make time for it

This could do with a comma somewhere, I think…

Please edit, I had an aneurism reading this

Been fucken ages, but it has the Sydney Harbour Bridge, plus a bunch of the cliffs on the freeway north of Sydney (which are sadly much less majestic since a freeway expansion on the early 2000s). Then it also has some red desert which is at least 1000km away, plus some old mining towns, which is somewhere in between.

I just looked up a lap of it on youtube though, and the graphics are waaaaay worse than I remember… I guess I had low standards in the 90s 😂