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Cake day: March 29th, 2024

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  • Relationships end for a reason. When you breakup it’s important to always remember why you broke up. It’s easy to only remember the good parts and that is often how people get sucked back in again to the same relationships and the same kinds of people.

    Keep remembering what the breaking point was and how you felt at the worst times. Doing that makes it easier for yourself to rationalise why you are not together.

    Also total separation is key. No willing contact again ever. If they are gone completely, then it will be easier to move on.












  • When I was a younger I asked my dad this same question and I will never forget how frazzled he was by it. He told me some b.s. answer like, “Oh, I don’t know. You don’t really need to do that.”

    He made me feel humiliated for asking. At a certain point I could not ignore it anymore though, so when I experimented and tried to figure it out myself, I did cut myself and there was blood everywhere. I was terrified and thought I was going to bleed out. Luckily it wasn’t really that bad and I managed it on my own, but I remember how scared I was.

    After going through all that, I told myself that I would help my future son if he ever asked me a question like that. You are a better dad than mine was in this situation. It’s your job to help them with whatever they need, and it would have meant a lot to me back then if my dad had helped me the way you did. I can guarantee your son appreciated it and will remember how you looked out for him.