a language might be a tool we use, but it absolutely shapes the way we see the world itself to a significant degree, even to the point where speakers of different languages might disagree on basic physical facts

eg: if you ask an english speaker how many fingers they have - they’ll answer 10. but if you answer a polish speaker - they’ll answer 20. polish makes little linguistic distinction between fingers, and how we call them, foot fingers

this is one example of many. i find it deeply fascinating and quite scary. it feels weird to realise that my understanding of the world is broadened and structured better thanks to the fact i use a language to describe it, but there might be things i’ll never notice, or will always confuse, simply because the tool i use is not perfect, and yet, that is the basis through which i perceive the world

thanks! i’m 25 so i have a life of figuring stuff out ahead of me lol

glad you’ve found some stability in your life, likewise wishing you well!

yeah i try to approach life that way but sometimes RSD is too fast for me to react. before i’m capable of logicking my way out of rejection - it hits, and the spiral begins, and that feeling of sinking in my chest is a point of no return. the only way to stop it is to go sleep for 8h to “reset”.

even if i know that what i’m feeling is fully irrational, the spiral seems to be inescapable

doesn’t work :( i care about people even more then, and my sensitivity gets more sensitive

hi there, RSD (and anxiety because of it) haver here

how do i not care

i’m trying out medikinet (ritalin/concentra are similar) and it makes me sleepy. i’ll test them out for longer but goodness, i hoped for some energy to do things, not being so relaxed i no longer care about the things

it takes some time to learn how and when to safeword. from experience i know that the most common thing stopping someone, both doms and subs, from using them is guilt - they don’t want to stop the play when they see the other person is having fun, perhaps it’s that?

if i were you i’d try to have that conversation again, try to stress the importance of clear and undeniable consent. how if they want to be treated roughly you need to feel safe doing it, and knowing that they will communicate when they get uncomfortable gives you that safety. but of course, i don’t know the whole context of your relationship so i don’t know if this would work, all i can do is wish you the best with that!

similar tone

https://www.instagram.com/reel/DRMtzZBEdrv/

the same way racism ended in 1964?

can i have some of your adhd?

my adhd only does want, and if there’s need without want it’s torture to start (dishes)

may i introduce you to - safewords & colour checks! :D

establish safewords with your partner, the deafult ones are:

green - keep going i like this

yellow - approaching my limit let’s pause

red - stop immediately and proceed to aftercare

at any point during play you can then ask them “colour?” and in a quick and definitive way you get to know how they feel and if it’s too much. (this also goes the other way! don’t be afraid to safeword as a dom if things get uncomfy for you). this helps a lot with the variety of things you can try out during a scene because it cuts short the worrying if your partner likes it or not, or if they mean the “stop” when they actually want you to keep going.

bdsm is more than just the hot stuff, it’s systems and safeties that allow the hot stuff to flourish safely and hot-ly <3

but i get ya, sometimes you want the same thing but a little to the left, and/or to loop the good moment in your mind. nothing wrong with that

to check the weather :) opens the calculator

big difference between someone using a tool to polish an already complete piece of music and someone using a tool to make a piece of music for them

may i introduce you to - BDSM. no need to imagine a scene when it’s happening! :)

any and all UI changes will make people angry

steam has had so few of them compared to idk youtube that, imo it’s fine even if it’s kinda pointless

by that i mean - that an emotional reaction doesn’t make something art

i experience an emotional reaction when i step in shit too

the only pause it gives me is when i notice nonsensical details blending into each other, the only emotion it moves in me is then disgust and foolishness as i just spent time on slop that was not an expression of something, but an intentionless imitation of one. and it sure as hell doesn’t make me self reflect as it manages to be both shallow and hollow

it’s not AI “art” itself that sparked a conversation, no singular piece stands out as something people talk about (a piece that is more than just a more seamless version of the pervious attempts, something memorable even after it stops being the best at imitation). The talk is not about AI “art” itself it’s about the idea of it. Nobody points to a single thing AI made and claims that is proof it’s not art, because it’s not individual pieces that “make us think” – it’s the concept of an intentionless thing being fed human art and then making misshapen copies of it at the whims of people who can’t be bothered to engage with art at all.

sure it does make you think, but only if you - knowingly or not - treat the entire emergence of AI slop as a kind of performance art itself, any individual piece of slop is not the topic here

i’m reading enough into your comment. i literally explained why that wouldn’t change much

never mind a canvas, if the guy cared in the slightest about the “art” AI made he’d at least print it on poster paper

this experiment shows how even the “artists” just do not care about those images, and why would they? why would any of us care?

this shows exactly the core of the issue - every piece of art made by a human, no matter how good or bad (whatever that means), is a reflection of the artist. Sometimes they pour their entire soul into a piece, sometimes just a small part of them, but it’s always a reflection of them. So the artist will care about what they’ve made because it’s their own self, in a way. And others will care about it too, because we crave to get to know others, understand them, see the world how they see it - and art allows us to glimpse just that.

AI slop elicits none of those emotions, there is no artist to care about, no reflection of the self, no worldview to glimpse, no way of caring about it, nothing – even if it was you who wrote the prompt, you just can’t bring yourself to give a shit