the archetype you’re looking for is “Anti-hero”. a kind of hero with grey morals and questionable ethics - but whose actions still have a mostly positive result

typically - a hero will try to rehabilitate a criminal first, throw them in prison second, and only kill if they’ve exhausted all other options. killing is usually shown as something that the hero struggles with greatly

an anti-hero will often skip the “when will murder be my only option?” ethical dilemma regular heroes have and go straight to the killing. in their stories casual killing is either shown as normal, or serves as a plot point that’ll come back to haunt them later (“i killed that man without thinking, but now he turned out to be innocent”)

this is not the only difference between the two of course, but i don’t want to type an essay

the test wasn’t personalised for me, IQ tests can’t be personalised as the IQ result is derived from how far you deviate from the base 100. you can’t reliably figure out the standard or compare people to it if you give every other guy a different test

the only personalisation you get is tests that cover lower or higher results. the most generic ones focus mostly on +/-2/3 standard deviations and become inaccurate at the borders. if you’re a genius, or mentally disabled then you need a different test if you want to figure out how big of a genius/disability you got

but yeah good idea to ask an actual professional, hope you find the answers you seek

fair points Mr AssTits, but there’s one thing i’ll nitpick - if you are always given a culturally neutral test - how are you supposed to check the various types of intelligence, when the culturally neutral test is just a bunch of logic puzzles, it only tests for logic. it’s impossible to test for debate ability, or musical abilities, or any other abilities with culturally neutral methods. even for a debate skill you need linguistic skills and langauges are heavily influenced by cultures they function in.

i took an IQ test with a licensed psychologist, WAIS for adults to be specific, and it was indeed based on the polish school curriculum. it supposedly measured 3 metrics: logic, language, emotion (not exact names of those metrics, forgot those). logic was just logic puzzles & memorising stuff, langauge was word definitions, and i assume an analysis of how i expressed myself, and emotion was honestly dumb and included sayings and idioms which??? i’m neurodivergent i get these wrong all the time, but i can read emotions and behave maturely quite well. then an average of these was taken and presented as my general IQ

i came out of there thinking how it’d be impossible for me to score well if i didn’t have the privilege of attending good schools, or just being lucky (there was a section of culturally important figures, one of whom was Maria Skłodowka-Curie who also happened to be a patron of my primary school so, yeah i kinda knew a lot about her)

T–T

if even one person learnt something new today i’ll consider that a win

it was at -1 when i saw it, which is what prompted me to attempt to give a step by step process leading to the conclusion you gave as it seemed to me folks just lacked context

IQ testes only test logic puzzle solving skills (& memory sometimes), so there is no way for you to measure your own actual intelligence, let alone your autistic kid’s

to those downvoting this comment -

your IQ test results might as well be your zip code

for a proper explanation, check out Bell Curve by Shaun

for a personal interpretation & in large part summary of the above material:

IQ tests are not a general smartness tests, that is impossible to measure. IQ testes measure your ability to solve logic puzzles, and that supposedly measures your logic itself (at least the tests that have no cultural bits, the ones that include cultures also have some testing of your memory based largely on your country’s school curriculum. more on why that’s a problem later)

can someone be naturally amazing at logic? of course, they can, but that skill needs to be nurtured, or at least allowed to flurish. and this is supposed to happen in schools.

now what happens when a person with the potential to score high in an IQ test doesn’t enjoy the privilege of peaceful learning? what happens when their family life is difficult? what happens when during their schooling years they have to focus on surviving, instead of learning and nurturing their skills? well, they score lower, of course. their potential doesn’t disappear, but it gets used in a different direction, to help them survive in life. and logic puzzles don’t play a big role in survival so that particular skill is not tended to and therefore doesn’t develop as well as it could in ideal circumstances.

now let’s look at racism. we’re not talking about day to day racism, though that also plays a part, but institutionalised racism - the one that keeps pushing minorities into poverty, and keeps them there harder than white people, because as we know, poverty is a trap that’s difficult to get out of even for those not pushed into it with institutional racism.

add the two together - IQ tests measure your logic puzzle solving skills, which develop only if you have access to decent schools & you’re allowed to learn without interruptions, without having to worry for yourself or your family. institutionalised racism pushes minorities into poverty, which means they lose access to good schooling, and have to worry for themselves and their families from an early age.

this in turn results in minorities scoring lower on those tests, but not because they are stupid, but because their intelligence has to be used for surviving, and they are not allowed to comfortably indulge in solving logic puzzles to develop the skills that IQ tests look at to “measure intelligence”

i never joined mensa, though i had the option to. and yeah you just confirmed all the reasons why i hadn’t lol. entitled dudes who believe so hard that results of a test make them better than others that they are approaching actual delusions of superiority, having to sit among people like that would make my blood boil

well, i suppose it’s a logic puzzle skills test, not an emotional intelligence test.

i despise how IQ is almost revered by the overall society, and i hate how, despite everything, that stupid result does make me feel good about myself, tempting me to feel better than others

a language might be a tool we use, but it absolutely shapes the way we see the world itself to a significant degree, even to the point where speakers of different languages might disagree on basic physical facts

eg: if you ask an english speaker how many fingers they have - they’ll answer 10. but if you answer a polish speaker - they’ll answer 20. polish makes little linguistic distinction between fingers, and how we call them, foot fingers

this is one example of many. i find it deeply fascinating and quite scary. it feels weird to realise that my understanding of the world is broadened and structured better thanks to the fact i use a language to describe it, but there might be things i’ll never notice, or will always confuse, simply because the tool i use is not perfect, and yet, that is the basis through which i perceive the world

thanks! i’m 25 so i have a life of figuring stuff out ahead of me lol

glad you’ve found some stability in your life, likewise wishing you well!

yeah i try to approach life that way but sometimes RSD is too fast for me to react. before i’m capable of logicking my way out of rejection - it hits, and the spiral begins, and that feeling of sinking in my chest is a point of no return. the only way to stop it is to go sleep for 8h to “reset”.

even if i know that what i’m feeling is fully irrational, the spiral seems to be inescapable

doesn’t work :( i care about people even more then, and my sensitivity gets more sensitive

hi there, RSD (and anxiety because of it) haver here

how do i not care

i’m trying out medikinet (ritalin/concentra are similar) and it makes me sleepy. i’ll test them out for longer but goodness, i hoped for some energy to do things, not being so relaxed i no longer care about the things

it takes some time to learn how and when to safeword. from experience i know that the most common thing stopping someone, both doms and subs, from using them is guilt - they don’t want to stop the play when they see the other person is having fun, perhaps it’s that?

if i were you i’d try to have that conversation again, try to stress the importance of clear and undeniable consent. how if they want to be treated roughly you need to feel safe doing it, and knowing that they will communicate when they get uncomfortable gives you that safety. but of course, i don’t know the whole context of your relationship so i don’t know if this would work, all i can do is wish you the best with that!

similar tone

https://www.instagram.com/reel/DRMtzZBEdrv/

the same way racism ended in 1964?

can i have some of your adhd?

my adhd only does want, and if there’s need without want it’s torture to start (dishes)

may i introduce you to - safewords & colour checks! :D

establish safewords with your partner, the deafult ones are:

green - keep going i like this

yellow - approaching my limit let’s pause

red - stop immediately and proceed to aftercare

at any point during play you can then ask them “colour?” and in a quick and definitive way you get to know how they feel and if it’s too much. (this also goes the other way! don’t be afraid to safeword as a dom if things get uncomfy for you). this helps a lot with the variety of things you can try out during a scene because it cuts short the worrying if your partner likes it or not, or if they mean the “stop” when they actually want you to keep going.

bdsm is more than just the hot stuff, it’s systems and safeties that allow the hot stuff to flourish safely and hot-ly <3

but i get ya, sometimes you want the same thing but a little to the left, and/or to loop the good moment in your mind. nothing wrong with that

to check the weather :) opens the calculator