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Cake day: 2023年10月3日
  • shneancy@lemmy.worldtoADHD@lemmy.world•Is it normal for ADHD people to find it hard to cum because you think about laundry?English
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    5 天前

    it takes some time to learn how and when to safeword. from experience i know that the most common thing stopping someone, both doms and subs, from using them is guilt - they don’t want to stop the play when they see the other person is having fun, perhaps it’s that?

    if i were you i’d try to have that conversation again, try to stress the importance of clear and undeniable consent. how if they want to be treated roughly you need to feel safe doing it, and knowing that they will communicate when they get uncomfortable gives you that safety. but of course, i don’t know the whole context of your relationship so i don’t know if this would work, all i can do is wish you the best with that!

  • shneancy@lemmy.worldtoADHD@lemmy.world•Is it normal for ADHD people to find it hard to cum because you think about laundry?English
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    5 天前

    may i introduce you to - safewords & colour checks! :D

    establish safewords with your partner, the deafult ones are:

    green - keep going i like this

    yellow - approaching my limit let’s pause

    red - stop immediately and proceed to aftercare

    at any point during play you can then ask them “colour?” and in a quick and definitive way you get to know how they feel and if it’s too much. (this also goes the other way! don’t be afraid to safeword as a dom if things get uncomfy for you). this helps a lot with the variety of things you can try out during a scene because it cuts short the worrying if your partner likes it or not, or if they mean the “stop” when they actually want you to keep going.

    bdsm is more than just the hot stuff, it’s systems and safeties that allow the hot stuff to flourish safely and hot-ly <3

    but i get ya, sometimes you want the same thing but a little to the left, and/or to loop the good moment in your mind. nothing wrong with that

  • shneancy@lemmy.worldtoTechnology@lemmy.world•Artist sneaks AI-generated print into National Museum Cardiff galleryEnglish
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    25 天前

    the only pause it gives me is when i notice nonsensical details blending into each other, the only emotion it moves in me is then disgust and foolishness as i just spent time on slop that was not an expression of something, but an intentionless imitation of one. and it sure as hell doesn’t make me self reflect as it manages to be both shallow and hollow

    it’s not AI “art” itself that sparked a conversation, no singular piece stands out as something people talk about (a piece that is more than just a more seamless version of the pervious attempts, something memorable even after it stops being the best at imitation). The talk is not about AI “art” itself it’s about the idea of it. Nobody points to a single thing AI made and claims that is proof it’s not art, because it’s not individual pieces that “make us think” – it’s the concept of an intentionless thing being fed human art and then making misshapen copies of it at the whims of people who can’t be bothered to engage with art at all.

    sure it does make you think, but only if you - knowingly or not - treat the entire emergence of AI slop as a kind of performance art itself, any individual piece of slop is not the topic here

  • shneancy@lemmy.worldtoTechnology@lemmy.world•Artist sneaks AI-generated print into National Museum Cardiff galleryEnglish
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    26 天前

    never mind a canvas, if the guy cared in the slightest about the “art” AI made he’d at least print it on poster paper

    this experiment shows how even the “artists” just do not care about those images, and why would they? why would any of us care?

    this shows exactly the core of the issue - every piece of art made by a human, no matter how good or bad (whatever that means), is a reflection of the artist. Sometimes they pour their entire soul into a piece, sometimes just a small part of them, but it’s always a reflection of them. So the artist will care about what they’ve made because it’s their own self, in a way. And others will care about it too, because we crave to get to know others, understand them, see the world how they see it - and art allows us to glimpse just that.

    AI slop elicits none of those emotions, there is no artist to care about, no reflection of the self, no worldview to glimpse, no way of caring about it, nothing – even if it was you who wrote the prompt, you just can’t bring yourself to give a shit