If the admins won’t address bigotry, then yeah I get that. It was also a transparent process with a clear cause and effect. I don’t know why I was banned from some circlejerk community, but I can only assume it’s some arbitrary nonsense from a tripping moderator.

I just realized I was banned from a federated instance I had never heard of, so it’s not just reddit.

It didn’t work for me. Why not?

What a miserable person.

I used to not care at all about Rowling, so it didn’t bother me that everyone loved her books.

But since she’s revealed that she’s also a horrible person, I feel like it’s worth pointing out that she’s also a horrible writer. Everything good that she put into her books is lifted from something else. The stories are meandering wish fulfillment, barely coherent and hardly ever internally consistent. Her twists are either telegraphed and obvious or non-sequitur. Her characters are one-dimensional caricatures, and the only reason they are so beloved is because they were crafted into films.

Go back and really read her stories. Read the dialogue, read the imagery, and really ask yourself, “is this good writing?” No it isn’t. Is it examining interesting moral questions? No, not once. Is it clever and original? It’s only clever when it’s plagiarism.

You can enjoy bad writing. I enjoyed reading the later books. I enjiyed the movies. Just as you can enjoy a McDonald’s cheeseburger and fries, Rowling’s world of Harry Potter scratches the right itches to engage the reader and make you feel good. But that doesn’t make her a good writer, anymore than the fast food burger flipper is a good chef.

JK Rowling sucks as a person, and as a writer.

It’s one thing to know it happens, and it’s an entirely different thing to hear it happening live and in real time.

I moved into an apartment with my girlfriend (and her roommate) after being together only a year, and we’re married now. We weren’t much older than you are now (22 and 21). The concerning part is the rest of the family.

You’ve answered a lot of questions, so don’t feel the need to respond to these, but you should know the answers for yourself.

Would you share a bed? Will you be able to hear her parents getting frisky? Because then they will be able to hear you. What if you have to take an epic shit, but her mom has just called everyone down to dinner? What if you go to take a shower and her father has clogged the drain with hair?

What is your alternative plan if you don’t move in with them?

Sharing a roof means intimacy with everyone in the building. There’s very little privacy, and escape is complicated. If you see her as a forever partner, and don’t mind making yourself vulnerable to her family, then actually I probably still wouldn’t do it even under those circumstances.

Yeah, you’re right, but this is why I don’t want dialogue. Just vroom vroom kersh-splode. “Aktually, I keep a copy of the Romeo and Juliet law in my wallet cause-” No. Stop it. Bad Michael. No talking. Just cars driving and crashing.

This is not healthy husband/wife behavior. If you don’t feel comfortable talking with him about your own freedom, then you don’t have a husband, you have a captor. If you live in the US or EU, there are resources to help you escape with your son you mentioned in another comment.

The iPhone does not have a way to override this restriction.

Can it just be 100 minutes of car chases and crashes and shit? Like if there was zero dialogue, I’d be OK with it. Michael Bay can do car chases, and that’s what the OutRun game was. No story, no deeper meaning, just recklessly driving a red testarosa around Southern California.

Because McDonald’s is the cheaper alternative to eating at the movie. Most of the places near me will bring a shitty bar food to your seat in exchange for a mortgage payment. If you make the mistake of going hungry, you’ll leave poor.

Tinker, Tailor, Soldier, Spy was a phenomenal film crafted with great care by experts. Comparing self-described mid-market spy films to that one is like comparing your house painter to Van Gogh. It’s not that they can’t be that good, but if that’s your benchmark, you are setting yourself up for disappointment.

I think the more troubling thing is that a filmmaker who made a mid-market spy thriller is just now discovering that audiences have abandoned theaters as the preferred venue. Theaters are too expensive, and wages are too low, for people to just drop $100 on a Friday night watching average movies and eating shitty popcorn. We have too many options, and too little disposable income to tolerate the leveraged abuse of consumers. For 40 years, theaters have squeezed every drop of profit from their privileged market position, and now they cannot afford to keep the lights on.

If you want to make money making average films, you need to meet viewers where they are, at home on their couch.

I think “selfish” is a better word for it in all instances, because some people are just selfish. Like, if you can’t be bothered to return your shopping cart or pick up your dog’s shit, then that’s selfish. It’s not anywhere near the same category as being too burnt out to do the dishes after a double shift, or wanting to sleep in on a day off.

Calling all of it “lazy” creates some imaginary obligation to the universe that simply does not exist. You don’t owe the universe clean dishes or your time in the morning. If you have roommates and you left dishes in the sink, you are being selfish. If your kids have an early baseball game, and you are too hungover to show up, then you’re being selfish. You are always obliged to return your cart and pick up after your dog.

There’s more living bacteria inside of you than you, and it will eat your decomposing corpse if you let it. Embalming or creamation will kill what remains of you after your brain dies.

I made french onion soup yesterday. The house still smells like caramelized onions. I have leftovers, but I ran out of cheese and somebody threw away the rest of the stale baguette.

Nah, that was just the top of the list when I signed up, and I don’t think it’s bad enough to migrate. But that’s the beauty of federation, you can start almost anywhere and connect with the stuff you like.

Liars.

Why would I take that personally?

Why would I want to be where everyone is? Have you met those people? No thanks.

… As was foretold by the prophecy.

And there was much rejoicing. (yaay)

Feels like a stunt to stir controversy.