

That last part is what they need to understand.
If you need help you can ask for it. You need room to grow your own experience. You need experience to easier handle situations where help is not available.
If your mom is reasonable, maybe you can discuss a code or symbol(s) that indicates you’re not ok and need help. Your request is that she does not step in if she sees you suffer, so you can more peacefully overcome the challenge.
I don’t know your dorm policies and for me a personal one really was a must. But that didn’t mean i never had people sleep over or slept over at a friend. If your old enough to live at dorm then your mom doesn’t need to know this. You are entitled to private sections of your life.
Aunt is just awkward, maybe text the guy straightforward “Hey are you aware my aunt is trying to get us dating?” Just so you are on the same baseline and its only awkward towards the aunt.
We need to split clients from providers.
Invidious and freetube could diversify to accept multiple alternative sources besides youtube content.
If the content exists on multiple platforms the user could set a preference and orded or backup providers.
As creators make a switch to smaller platforms the users who use these clients are unaffected. It works similar to our fediverse, a community can just change instance and everyone can still access it the same.
Creators could test migration by posting to multiple providers themselves. Those reliant on YouTube money specifically could premiere on youtube and after some time reupload elsewhere.
Those that dont rely on youtube money can do the reverse where the later youtube upload serves more as an ad to their alternative main channel.