How often are you reinstalling your OS? Maybe that’s where your frustration should go.

I’m doing so right now.

Burnt myself out doing things around the house (Christmas decorations finally away, new towel racks in bathrooms, patching holes and painting, lots of odd laundry, etc) but hopefully today will be restorative.

solving puzzle after puzzle

That about sums it up for me. Figuring something out lets out the good brain chems. The opposite sucks, though, getting stuck on something, especially when it’s something small that I was just too tunnel visioned to see.

Do I really want to interact with people today just to be clever? Sometimes yes, often no.

Got to participate in a one shot comedy RPG where the players were a team of infiltrators for the armies of Christmas as they tried to subjugate Halloween as they had already conquered Thanksgiving.

Darkwing Duck is probably the one I remember most fondly. It even had a Twin Peaks inspired episode, Twin Beaks, which I didn’t appreciate until I was older.

I inherited ansible that always used maps instead of lists and it drove me up the wall. Still untangling that.

Four first steps? That doesn’t even make sense. Only one can be the first. And I doubt the steps are really fantastic if they can’t even figure out which is actually first.

Do not try to become her manager or parent or psychologist or coach. It will negatively impact your relationship.

https://www.getinflow.io/post/adhd-authority-issues-defiance for some ideas on why.

If you have a problem with how she is behaving, you will not be able to change it through external influence. If she really has ADHD (emphasis on disorder where it is negatively and significantly impacting her life AND is diagnosed) and is unmedicated, the single best thing she can do is get medicated, and that’s her choice. If medication isn’t working, she should talk with her provider about it.

If she requests help, feel free to provide it. Feel free to ask her (and not internet strangers) if there’s something you can do to help her as she’ll know what works and what doesn’t as ADHD isn’t a monolithic diagnosis and what works for one person might drive another up the wall.

Sorry if this seems a bit negative, but I was in school when all the Where There’s a Will There’s an A and all the techniques in the world did not make a difference to people that can’t utilize them, but they can frustrate and shame people.