So straight out the gate: I don’t ever really flirt (yes, even if I like the girl). And I’m not sure whether I should change strategies. So hence my question.

Note: I am a guy.

Edit: Thank you all for your input. I have come to the realisation I need to let the other party (better) know I am romantically interested in them. Either by means of flirtation or otherwise.

  • katA
    link
    fedilink
    arrow-up
    9
    arrow-down
    1
    ·
    edit-2
    5 days ago

    Not really, I would take it at face value. Unless the person sent some really strong signals. And even then I would just do the conclusion that requires the least assumptions, which is just friend vibes.

    But you can still be explicit afte the fact. I get is hard tho, since you have to be pretty vulnerable.

    • saltesc@lemmy.world
      link
      fedilink
      arrow-up
      12
      ·
      5 days ago

      Eh, just say, “I’m trying to flirt with you. How’s it doing?”

      And if she laughs, you’re in. If she does squirmy-squirm face, “Well, I had to try. Now let’s enjoy this awkward silence together.” And stare at the ground silently, but for no more than three seconds.

      • katA
        link
        fedilink
        arrow-up
        5
        ·
        5 days ago

        Never more than 3 seconds. Listen up guys, most important part!

        • saltesc@lemmy.world
          link
          fedilink
          arrow-up
          1
          ·
          edit-2
          4 days ago

          Well, then it actually is awkward instead of a confident, “I saw this coming lol” silence.