I have ADHD, and my therapist has confirmed it, just like the results of ADHD tests. He isn’t bad, he greatly helps me with my depression. However, he doesn’t provide an official diagnosis nor prescribe pills.
He says it’s my trait and that I should learn to live with it. Like, take more breaks, find a motivation. Easy to say, hard to do. I can’t keep up with the strategies he suggests, and I feel like I’m not trying hard enough.
The world doesn’t wait for me. This trait is ruining my work and my routine, and it’s stealing my money and my time. I can’t start tasks, I can’t concentrate, and I can’t do anything boring or unpleasant.
For example, I can stare at a wall in the middle of a work task, with my hand over the keyboard, and lose myself in thoughts about my hobby. And I don’t give a damn at this moment about all my reminders, the absence of irritants, and so on.
Of course, sometimes I can force myself “just to do it”, but it costs a ton of energy (btw, because of my depression, I have a tiny amount of energy). It often requires a ton of luck, too.
Is this normal? Am I just complaining?
It sounds more like you’re not listening to what your doctor is actually saying and just hearing what you want to…
He won’t diagnose you with ADHD, because he does not believe you meet the diagnosis criteria.
Do you mean online quizs? Those are a waste of the 15 minutes they take.
If you took a bunch of online quiz’s that say ADHD, and you keep badgering for a diagnosis, a common conversation would be: “you have some traits of this condition, but not the condition”.
You however are talking like it’s a trait you picked in a rpg character creation screen.
Yes, what you described is called “day dreaming” in America.
But if you disagree with your doctor, you get a second opnion from another doctor, not give a one sided description online and hope people reinforce your beliefs instead of assuming the medical professional knows more than you said in three paragraphs…
Sounds like you aren’t listening to OP and just hearing what you want to. OP detailed their struggles and you say it’s just “day dreaming”? I never thought I’d read a comment suggesting this in an ADHD space.