When “doing it”, are you regularly thinking about putting clothes away, which clothes to wash next or if you emptied the washing machine? Or when you washed your clothes the last time?
Is it distracting to the point you get soft (for penis havers) or dry (for ADHDers with vaginas)?
This may partially explain why I (and many other NDs I know) have gravitated towards BDSM.
Need more side quests. “Have orgasm with partner(s)” not interesting enough. “Hi I would like to try sex but extra, please.”