i tend to be a bit of a yapper, very loud (theres an interesting reverse-masking thing going on there, which if anyones interested, lmk and ill explain) and tend to be quite rude.
really inside, im a quiet person, but i tend to impulsively speak and be loud, and say things i dont really want to say, e.g. being rude.
these are things i really want to deal with. when i talk less, and be quieter like i am inside, i tend to be much happier. does anyone have any tips?
This is going to sound like a weird suggestion, but I used snacks/gum to slow me down. The very act of having something in my mouth makes talking harder so it forces me to stop and consider my words a bit, gives others a chance to reply
i love that actually, gum helps me with quite a few neurodivergency issues, if i had more access to it id be using it constantly
i always wished there was like a gum that just existed to be chewed on forever and could be washed or something
Sugar-free gum is pretty cheap and won’t affect your teeth. You only need to chew it long enough to give your brain a break
Maybe talk to a couple of people you have an established relationship with that you trust. Explain the behavior in yourself that you want to change and establish a sign they can give when they think you are doing that behavior. Something simple like just holding up a hand in an indication of “stop” as one idea. The goal being that this will help you be aware of when you act this way and you can reflect on why you are doing it in that moment.
This whole idea is based on the premise that things you are aware of you can influence/control. If this doesn’t feel like the right path for you, no worries.
thanks, ill talk to my gf and some friends about it ^^
A good improv/theater class in a friendly community.
thats part of where the problem started for me 😅
I understand hahaha
