I genuinely care about my friends and family, but I forget to stay in touch and it makes me feel awful.
I’ll go weeks or months without reaching out, not because I don’t care, but because once someone is out of sight they’re out of mind. Then I remember randomly, feel guilty, and put it off again.
I’ve tried reminders, calendars, notes but nothing really sticks long-term. It’s especially frustrating because I do want to maintain these relationships, it’s like my brain just doesn’t cooperate.
Recently I’ve found a mobile app that helps (after rummaging through the useless, overwhelming ones) but I’m curious does anyone else struggle with this? Have you found anything that actually helps, or is this just one of those ADHD things you learn to live with?
Edit: For everyone asking the app is called Kinly Connect
My dream is a matrix plugin where I can sort memes into boxes for each loved one and it will send them on a set interval (every other day, weekly, etc). I use beeper which is matrix based and has bridges for most major communication apps so just having that one extra plugin I could really keep up a solid “thinking of you” vibe without inundating people with an overwhelming quantity.
Yeah never thought of that! Kinly could be for the reminders and intervals part, I’ll have to try it out, thanks