I know that it’s an awful and homophobic slur but it made me feel weirdly validated to be called a slur that’s usually only used on women (lesbians). I don’t know, it’s weird. Part of me is upset that they called me a homophobic slur but a part of me is also euphoric for being referred to, even indirectly as a woman. Does anyone else relate to this experience?
(By the way I’m a transfem lesbian.)
There’s a whole sub in R*ddit called r/ewwphoria that is basically filled with these kind of interactions.
It is disgusting behaviour, but it’s totally understandable why something awful like that would feel euphoric because it validates your gender identity in a twisted way.
You can feel offended and validated at the same time, they’re not mutually exclusive. I hope you are in an otherwise safe place and can get lots of compliments that are not demeaning like that though 💜