• EnsignRedshirt [he/him]@hexbear.net
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    1 day ago

    Wow, I never thought of it that way. Maybe neurodivergent people are just lazy. Have you shared this fresh insight with the medical community? They’re going to want to hear this right away.

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      1 day ago

      Hello, I’m neurodivergent. I have put a lot of time and effort into therapy and treatment. It’s not easy, but yes you can actually do things to control unhealthy impulses.

      This is well documented in the medical community

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          18 hours ago

          I’m sorry my words came across as condescending. My experiences and views are my own.

          My view is that this image gives license to acceptance of unhealthy coping mechanisms. I believe there are ways to curb these impulses, however people with ADHD will always have to work harder at that.

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            16 hours ago

            I’ll be sincere here, the issue that this is clearly a forum for ADHD memes. People are here to have a chuckle and commiserate about shared experiences. Everyone here is aware that these aren’t good or useful behaviors.

            It’s not about normalizing these behaviors, it’s about contextualizing them. If someone has been struggling with these things their whole life, there’s a good chance they’ve been told over and over again that they should try harder to not do these things, but without any compassion or accommodation or treatment. They’ve heard “oh, you should be able to control those things” from people who don’t have trouble with these things, and your comment is basically indistinguishable from that sentiment.

            People know these are unhealthy behaviors, they know there are ways to work on them, and they are probably already doing that work. It’s unhelpful and tedious to point out that these are bad and you can work on them.

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              16 hours ago

              Thanks for being sincere, I totally see your perspective. However, as someone who struggles with all the behaviors in the image. I’m also allowed to simply not like the image and its sentiment.

              Saying there are things you can do to control impulses, does not trivialize the effort needed. Will these things be successful for everyone? Nope.

              I feel that the image communicates acceptance, and I’m entitled to simply not liking that sentiment.

              Genuinely sorry if you felt hurt by this perspective

              Edit: words

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        1 day ago
        • Not everyone has access to treatment
        • Even with treatment, these things are still much harder than for neurotypical people
        • Even with treatment and great effort, you will still just slip up sometimes and fail at these things at a higher rate than neurotypical people.

        So the point still stands.

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          1 day ago

          I agree with everything you said. I don’t like the image, because i personally feel that its giving license to accepting unhealthy behaviors.

          These are all things I struggle with myself