I am 14M(AGAB) and started feeling gender dysphoria after starting puberty. At first I thought that I was agender. Soon, I found myself imagining being an AGAB agender, so I decided that I was not agender but a trans girl. However, after identifying as trans, I only feel gender dysphoria once a while, and it’s not string enough as before. I am now thinking that I might not be trans, and what I felt before was just a normal puberty experience. I’m afraid that I was thinking about myself all wrong.

  • da_cow (she/her)@feddit.orgEnglish
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    9 days ago

    Not experiencing dysphoria is a quite common thing. I myself had about 3-4 days of very intense dysphoria after my egg-cracking that got followed by multiple weeks with little to no Dysphoria at all. Those were quite hard weeks, because I ended up constantly questioning myself and if I was truly trans. That’s why focussing on Dysphoria as an indicator for being trans can be actually counterproductive. Ask yourself questions like:

    • If you could choose to be born as a different gender,what would you choose?
    • Do you really identify with your AGAB, or is it just something you are being used to?
    • What do you want to look like?
    • If you could try out a different gender without any consequences, would you?

    Its always OK to question your gender ans identity, no matter what comes out of it. And always remember, the absence of Dysphoria does not make you any less trans or invalidates your identity in any way.