I was in a talking stage with a woman and she said she had feelings for me but did not want to do any romantic stuff and realized because of her trauma, she was not ready for a relationship. So, I wonder, is it because trauma can interfere with relationships or is it a matter of not actually liking someone romantically if you don’t want to be romantic with them. Everyone presents trauma differently, so for me, I wanna be super romantic with people. I’m not trying to be an ass, I’m trying to understand.
Did you ask her what exactly “feelings” she has? Some feelings are not compatible with romantic stuff.
Romantic feelings, she said she was attracted to me
It doesn’t make much sense: She has “Romantic feelings”, but “not want to do any romantic stuff”. I think it is some misunderstanding or terminology misuse.
It’s not contradictory. Feelings and actions are not the same thing.
Maybe I really like ice cream (feeling), but it don’t actually want to eat it (action) because I’m worried about something unrelated, like my weight.