I moved to Mumbai in 2021 for university. I earned my bachelor’s degree this year and am now pursuing my master’s. My parents rent an apartment for me here and also give me a monthly allowance. I’ve told them I can get a job so I wouldn’t be a burden, but they refuse to let me work, whether part-time or full-time, saying I should focus entirely on my studies. In the summer of 2024, I met a much older man and we started dating. I moved into his house in December. Here’s the issue: my parents are still paying for the apartment and sending me money each month. I haven’t spent any of it since I started dating this man and have been saving it so I can eventually give it back to them. But if I tell them to stop sending money and paying rent, they’ll know something’s up, and I don’t want to tell them about my relationship because I know they’ll react badly. At the same time, I feel guilty because my parents aren’t wealthy enough for that money to be pocket change.
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That’s pretty concerning, my mother went through a similar relationship early in her life, he was older than my grandparents.
You do you, but anecdotally, for her, the relationship may have started out okay, but they were never equal. He treated her like a daughter that he fucked every once in a while. Power dynamics in relationships are extra screwy when the age gap is more than 20 years. Our holiday dinners at home were always very awkward.
Their relationship lasted about 20 years, imo it should never have started in the first place. She remarried afterwards to someone her age and finally found some companionship instead of stewardship, that relationship lasted much longer