I often find that, when talking to my project manager, I’m wrong when I assume I know where the sentence will end. Even if just a little bit (and even if sometimes it’s because she’s wrong in what she’s saying).
How can I get better at shutting up and listening to people? It’s absolutely fucking mortifying and makes me feel childish when I notice I keep interrupting people and getting it wrong.
Why are you in such a rush in the first place? Maybe try treating these human interactions as a break from your usual pace. Just enjoy their company. People will notice if you are relaxed and listening carefully.
Cos they’re work, and I’d like to not have to talk to my colleagues as I don’t particularly like them. I do make an effort to enjoy my time with my friends, and I am better at not interrupting them.
Work communication sucks because you have the competing tensions of “you have to listen to this person because it’s your job to and it would look bad on you if you don’t” and “it feels like this person is doing everything in their power to make listening to them a grueling experience.” Then there’s also the tension of “The time im spending here is time I could be doing my actual job.” I run into this a lot at work
I dont have perfect solutions for that. People have mentioned mindfulness, and yeah thats probably the healthiest way of coping. But for work specifically, ive found writing while people talk helps, since people see that and act differently. I also treat it as a bit of a memory game where i try to recall what they said earlier in the convo to keep myself interested.
edits: how can you tell I turned my auto correct off recently?
I often find that, when talking to my project manager, I’m wrong when I assume I know where the sentence will end. Even if just a little bit (and even if sometimes it’s because she’s wrong in what she’s saying).
How can I get better at shutting up and listening to people? It’s absolutely fucking mortifying and makes me feel childish when I notice I keep interrupting people and getting it wrong.
Mindfulness… Just try to remember not to do it in the moment. It’s hard at first, but it gets easier the more you do it.
Zen meditation, patience, age…
Thank you, I appreciate the response 🙏
Why are you in such a rush in the first place? Maybe try treating these human interactions as a break from your usual pace. Just enjoy their company. People will notice if you are relaxed and listening carefully.
Cos they’re work, and I’d like to not have to talk to my colleagues as I don’t particularly like them. I do make an effort to enjoy my time with my friends, and I am better at not interrupting them.
Work communication sucks because you have the competing tensions of “you have to listen to this person because it’s your job to and it would look bad on you if you don’t” and “it feels like this person is doing everything in their power to make listening to them a grueling experience.” Then there’s also the tension of “The time im spending here is time I could be doing my actual job.” I run into this a lot at work
I dont have perfect solutions for that. People have mentioned mindfulness, and yeah thats probably the healthiest way of coping. But for work specifically, ive found writing while people talk helps, since people see that and act differently. I also treat it as a bit of a memory game where i try to recall what they said earlier in the convo to keep myself interested.
edits: how can you tell I turned my auto correct off recently?